Get In Touch With Your Inner Kinkster

Many of us have an inner kinkster just waiting to get out. And often times we hold back those desires that tempt us to explore. I say it's time to let them free and play more. What better way to celebrate than to bring in some new kinky elements...

Here are just a few kinky ideas you may want to explore:


Naughty Role Play - dress up in sexy costumes, pretend to be strangers, have motel sex...

Light Bondage - try some hancuffs, masks, blindfolds, rope play, scarves or neck ties, whips, paddles, and spanking...

The Backdoor - anal play, licking, plugs, beads...

Add a Buzz - use a vibrator, a rabbit, a clit cuddler, or a remote controlled bullet...

Any of these would be a good starting point for some new kinky play. Visit one of my favorite sex toy sites, pinktrickle.com They have hundreds of ready for action kinky play things!

Have fun and Play More.

Great Pleasures Come In All Sizes

More Positive Than Negative Effects of Masturbation.

Amplify’d from sexuality.about.com

Effects of Masturbation

Surprisingly little research attention has been paid to the specific effects of masturbation. The history of masturbation is littered with moral condemnation and scientific inaccuracies regarding its negative effects but thankfully there finally seems to be medical agreement that masturbation is a healthy form of sexual expression, and one with more positive than negative effects. Still many of us believe the masturbation myths we are raised with, which makes it worthwhile to learn the truth about the effects of masturbation on the body and the mind.

Masturbation can increase self-knowledge:

Sex educators don’t call masturbation the cornerstone of sexual health for nothing. Masturbation is the first, safest, and best way to get to know how your sexual body works. You can learn what turns you on and what doesn’t. You can learn how to give yourself sexual pleasure in a hurry, or when you’ve got nothing but time. As an educational tool, masturbation is better than any textbook, video or website you’ll ever read (that includes this one!).

Masturbation can lead to self-discovery:

Even if you know how to get the job done, masturbatorally speaking, your capacity to feel sexual pleasure is limitless and masturbation is a great way to find new functions for familiar parts. Often when we’re having sex with a partner we might be too self-conscious, shy, or otherwise distracted to pay close attention to what’s happening in our own body. Masturbation, when you’re doing it by yourself, allows you to focus on the subtlety of your own sexual response , and possibly discover things you hadn’t previously realized were part of your sexuality.

Masturbation is nature’s sleep aid:

While thinking about sex might keep you up at night having it, including masturbation, is a great way to deal with insomnia. In a 2000 study of U.S. women, 32% said that in the past three months they masturbated as a way to fall asleep. Whether it’s because of the hormones and endorphins released following orgasm, the benefits of clearing your head, or the mini cardio workout, masturbation that ends in orgasm is a great way to get to sleep without pills, television, or counting sheep.

Masturbation provides pain relief:

Whether you’re experiencing temporary or chronic pain from sore joints, headaches, menstrual cramps, or other causes, masturbation and orgasm can, in some cases, provide natural pain relief. While we don’t know exactly why, research has documented arousal and orgasm resulting in reduced pain thresholds. It’s worth pointing out that for some conditions (like migraine headaches ) orgasm can either reduce the pain or increase it.

Masturbation is a great stress reliever:

Several studies have documented the relaxation effects of masturbation induced orgasm. Aside from the physical benefits, masturbation, when you’re doing it right, is all about “you time” and taking time to focus on yourself is a great way to break up the stress of a busy life. Particularly when used with sexual fantasy, masturbation can be a great escape, a way to let off some steam, and while masturbation alone might not be enough to deal with all the stress in your life, it’s a healthy, free, and non-pharmaceutical tool right at your fingertips (or other body part or sex toy, as the case may be).

Masturbation may offer cancer prevention:

Two recent studies found a link between the number of times a man ejaculates and the likelihood of getting prostate cancer. The prostate gland produces and stores seminal fluid and the fluid can build up in the prostate if a man goes a long time without ejaculating. This build up isn’t always a problem, but in the studies men who ejaculate more were less likely to be diagnosed with prostate cancer. Another researcher has proposed a theory that orgasm may offer some protective effect against breast cancer via oxytocin released at orgasm.

Sources: Cornog, M. The Big Book of Masturbation San Francisco: Down There Press, 2003. Komisaruk, B., Beyer-Flores, C., and Whipple, B. The Science of Orgasm Baltimore: Johns Hopkins University Press, 2006. Read more at sexuality.about.com

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Flexisexual: Girls Who Kiss Girls, But Like Boys

Girls Who Kiss Girls, But Like Boys

Ever since Madonna planted that wet kiss on Britney Spears in front of millions of television viewers at the 2003 MTV Video Music Awards, women have been loosening up sexually with other women. These so-called flexisexuals say that although they are not gay or even bisexual, they enjoy flirting and kissing girls -- but they still enjoy having sex with men. Experts say they may be influenced by the growing visibility of same-sex couples and more open attitudes about sex in general. Pop culture, itself, seems to celebrate that flexibility in songs like Katy Perry's, "I Kissed a Girl," a song that 19-year-old Alisha Garrison said "made girls be more free to do whatever they want." "It's not really experimenting, but maybe trying to get some attention," said Garrison, an urban planning student from Simi Valley, Calif. Perry admits in her lyrics, "I got so brave, drink in hand, I lost my discretion." Flexisexual is also known as heteroflexible, pansexual or queer, all subtle variations that mean they are not closing any doors. Women say it has has more to do with their view of the world than their practice in the bedroom. "When I was younger, girls bounced around in high school about sexuality," said Jamilla Wright, a public relations major at the University of Texas. "I think the older we get the more comfortable we are with it being based more on the individual than either-or as far as sexuality is concerned." "Labels matter less," said the 21-year-old. Hollywood has its own examples: Lindsay Lohan, 24, who dated Samantha Ronson, denied she was a lesbian and "maybe" bisexual. She has since returned to men. Angelina Jolie, 35 and now happily ensconced with Brad Pitt, had a sexual relationship with Jenny Shimizu. And Drew Barrymore, 35, has reportedly said, "Being with a woman is like exploring your own body, but through someone else." Flexisexual.net is a website where women can find "sexy, open-minded women looking to explore their sexuality, chat, hook up with and more." "This is where straight women who feel curious about bisexual passion or romance start out," it says. "The common interest makes it easy for like-minded individuals to connect with each other and find someone compatible, compared to leaving it up to chance." For many of today's women in their late teens and 20s, openness to intimate physical relationships with either gender has become a way of life, rather than an "experiment." This relatively new phenomenon is likely a product of a generation unconcerned with labels. Often, it begins in the enlightened college cocoon, where women can explore their sexuality, though a recent ABC report from San Antonio, Texas, said flexisexuality is also part of the high school culture. Experts say more sexual experimentation occurs when people have not yet found a partner, before they settle into monogamous relationships. College is also a safe cocoon for self-discovery.

A Womens G Spot - How To Find The G Spot - G Spot Stimulation

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A woman's G-spot  is located inside her vagina approximately 2 to 3 inches inside on the upper wall on the side of the vagina where her bellybutton is. A womens G-spot has a ridged feel or texture to it and responds to soft gentle stroking. A woman's G-spot is somewhat like a man's prostate gland the difference being is a woman's G-spot has 32 ducts. Once a girls G spot is stimulated effectively and properly, which you can discover through experimentation, you'll have the power to give a woman the most powerful spine exploding orgasms in her entire life.

There are two main types of orgasm in a women. One is achieved through clitoral stimulation and is called a clitoral orgasm. Generally a clitoral orgasm creates its pleasure in the region of the vagina. The other is G-spot orgasm. The G-spot orgasm is much more similar to the type of orgasm a man has where the whole body is involved and creates a much more satisfying explosive and sexual tension release than the clitoral orgasm.

To best stimulate a woman's G-spot without interruption it is a good idea to have her pee first  because G-spot can create a sensation of the desire to urinate. The best way to perform this is have the woman lying on her back with her pelvis raised up in the air by a pillow. Place your thumb on her clitoris and insert your middle finger or both middle and forefinger inside her vagina with your palm facing up.   As you insert your finger or fingers inside her vagina pressing lightly on the upper part or the part of her vagina facing her stomach search for the area about two or 3 inches in which is a ridged area.

Stimulate this area with fairly slow in and out motions with your middle finger and/or forefinger. Then alternate to keep the sensation and stimulation strong instead of moving your middle finger (fingers) in and out move them in a side to side motion alternating direction. At this point you want to experiment with direction of movement, speed of movement, and pressure. It will become obvious to you which is most pleasurable to her by her reactions and moans.

This article is just a tiny taste of the giant treasure chest of female orgasm tips, secrets, and techniques that you will find in the very popular 'female orgasm secrets' guide. Read more at www.articlesbase.com

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First Kiss Is More Powerful Than First Sexual Encounter

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Valentine's Day Tip for Lovers: A Good Kiss Can Seal A Relationship, A Bad Kiss Can Kill It

Psychologists report that most people can remember up to 90 percent of the details of their first romantic kiss, a memory that is even more powerful that their first sexual encounter.

The "Shoop-Shoop Song, (It's in His Kiss)," sung by both Betty Everett and later Cher, says it all.

"Think about all those date-movies where that long-awaited first kiss brings sighs and heart flutters to the audience and seals the deal between the couples on the screen," said Sarasota, Fla., psychologist LeslieBeth Wish.

"The lips are very sensitive tissue, with many nerve endings that signal reactions such as hot and cold, sharp and soft," she said. "These same nerve endings also activate our feelings of closeness and attachment by arousing the brain's love chemicals such as oxytocin."

On Valentine's Day it is worth noting that the romantic kiss may be underrated in a fast culture that celebrates booty calls, pornography and online dating.

"Despite the casualness of sex these days, kisses still pack a serious punch," said Wish. "Good kissers know not to swallow up the mouth of the other, not to jam their tongue down the partner's throat or knock their teeth. Kisses are such powerful connectors that the moment of the first touch can overwhelm you with pleasure."

It can also break the deal.

"The worst kiss is the kind when it feels like a serpent has just entered your mouth and is swirling around inside of it," said Severin Witte, a 22-year-old college senior from Brenham, Texas.

An estimated 59 percent of men and 66 percent of women end a relationship because of a bad first kiss, according to Sheril Kirshenbaum, author of "The Science of Kissing: What Our Lips Are Telling Us."

"So much information is exchanged with a kiss," she said. "One kiss and everything can be completely off. It's the ultimate litmus test."

Research for her recent book revealed that, as a rule, "men prefer open-mouth kissing, and women complain about too much tongue," said Kirshenbaum.

The kiss may even serve an evolutionary purpose. Men's saliva contains a small amount of testosterone that can, over repeated exposure, arouse a woman's libido and eventually persuade her to mate.

In a a study at the State University of New York at Albany, men described kissing as a "means to an end...something else down the line," but women saw it as a route to a deeper relationship, according to Kirshenbaum.

Women are also more sensitive to scent and taste, using their senses to detect if the man is the "right match."

"Kissing is such a good example of a behavior that is both nature and nurture," she said. "We seem to have an instinctive drive to kiss and connect in some way."

Man's earliest kisses were with the nose, kind of like the Eskimo rub, according to Kirshenbaum, probably allowing humans to reconnect with relatives and find out clues about a person's health.

Kissing may have moved to the mouth as humans became sensitized to the color red, finding ripe fruits for food. That may have led to a woman's red lips, an indicator of a potentially fertile mate. Modern studies show that the color red makes the heart beat faster and may be the reason why women still use lipstick.

The first mention of a mouth kiss -- "smelling with the mouth" -- was in India's Sanskrit texts in 1500 B.C. Later, in the third century A.D., the Kama Sutra instructed readers to kiss "the forehead, the eyes, the cheeks, the throat, the bosom, the breasts, the lips and the interior of the mouth."

Kissing went on to become an act of greeting or reverence, not only sexuality. Greeks and Romans chronicled kisses between slaves and owners; Christians kissed the hands of priests and popes.

In the Middle Ages among the illiterate, legal documents were marked with an X and sealed with a kiss. But by the time the plague arrived in the 17th century, a kiss became deadly and men were more apt to tip a hat than risk touching lips.

Some of the most memorable kisses have come out of Hollywood.

Burt Lancaster's famous kiss in the surf with Deborah Kerr in the 1953 film "From Here to Eternity," still ranks as the most memorable of all screen kisses, as rated by entertainment writer Erik Lundegaard. Tobey Maguire and Kirsten Dunst ranked second in their upside-down kiss in the 2002 movie "Spider-Man," followed by George Peppard and Audrey Hepburn in the 1961 film "Breakfast at Tiffany's," and Patrick Swayze and Demi Moore in the 1990 move "Ghost."

Kissing can even be good for your health.

According to the American Academy of Cosmetic Dentistry, when people kiss, salivary glands under the tongue and in the cheeks are stimulated to produce more saliva. The water, proteins, electrolytes and mineral salts in saliva keep the mouth healthy.

What makes a good kisser?

"I like when he takes charge...but not too aggressive," said Kendra Handy, 21, of Snellville, Ga. "I like to feel engaged -- kissing is about more than just lip."

Ashley Boyce, 21, of Bandera, Texas, said a good kiss has "just the right amount of tongue-to-lips-to-teeth ratio."

And it always has to be an appropriate setting, not a busy street corner or school hallway," she said. "In the 'Wedding Singer' they call it 'church tongue'!"

And women don't have to be gay to appreciate a good kiss with another woman.

Annette Bening told ABC News in a recent interview that her co-star in the film "The Kids Are All Right," Julianne Moore, was "at the top" of her list of great kissers.

"We've actually talked about this," Bening said, referring to Moore. "Because both of us have kissed a lot of guys, OK? That's the bottom line. So, we both agree we'd much rather kiss each other than many of the men we've had to kiss." Read more at abcnews.go.com

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75% of women fantasised about their bloke dressing up as a fireman

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by Coleen Nolan, Daily Mirror 7/02/2011

A survey by Glamour magazine found that 75% of women fantasised about their bloke dressing up as a fireman. I’m not going to make any rubbish jokes about the size of his hose. (Ahem). Read more at www.mirror.co.uk

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Self-service should not be limited to one sex

Clipped from cuindependent.com

Masturbation.  It’s a topic we tend to step over lightly, only joking about the guys doing it.

Maybe it’s because even talking about masturbation seems so taboo that our generation has yet to accept it as something that everybody has the option of doing. When conversation does take place about masturbation, it’s usually negative.

Often times, masturbation is incorrectly associated with feelings of disapproval. Girls quickly jump to the conclusion that the only reason their partners masturbate with Internet porn is because of a flaw on their part: that they aren’t sexy enough, or aren’t turning him/her on anymore.

In reality, masturbation is both normal and beneficial. According to an article featured on Go Ask Alice, Columbia University’s health and wellness website, (http://www.goaskalice.columbia.edu/0539.html) masturbation provides an outlet for individuals to get to enjoy their own body. It’s all about sex-positivity.

Masturbation allows both men and women to familiarize with their physicality, learn their likes and dislikes and share that with one another. Women can feel comfortable enjoying a sexual experience without someone else in the bedroom. Masturbation is positive self-exploration.

So who cares if your lover is participating in some private extra-curricular activities? Let’s join in on the fun, rather than worry about it.

“The type of erotica I watch depends on my mood,” Holloway said. “I find that watching pornography makes me feel good and also helps my relationship in giving us ideas, which is why I watch it with my boyfriend a lot of the time.”

Pornography isn’t something to be afraid of, and neither is masturbation. Girls shouldn’t be overwhelmed by the thought of surfing the web for multimedia masturbation tips.

Masturbation is a normal and empowering thing. And boys shouldn’t get to have all the fun.

“It’s something everybody does,” Holloway said. Read more at cuindependent.com

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The Kinky Courtesan » Don’t Be So Anal: The Taboo Explained

Although I've never been accused of having a stick up my arse there are others who could 'loosen up' so to speak.

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