How To Buy Her A Sex Toy

Silicon, rubber, metal, or glass

You don’t want to go overboard with the first sex toy; keep this one simple, subtle and functional. Silicon and rubber have the most life-like feel to them and are always a good choice. They are also very safe, and warm up under a hot tap easily.

Metal is a bad choice because it is quite cold to start off with, though its firmness may be the selling point. Metal can look quite attractive too, and since sex toys aren’t the most gorgeous things on earth, it’s a plus if they’re not ugly.There are some very beautiful glass dildos available. Glass offers a very smooth sensation, and can be cooled or heated to give her some variety. Opting for the "Joe-blow average" toy is your best bet. Stick to the basics. If in doubt, go with silicon. Silicon is neither too soft nor too hard and is durable and hygienic, making it an excellent choice for sex toys. 

Quality vs. cost

Don’t scrimp and save on this toy because you want quality. Having a toy not work or fall to bits at the crucial moment is going to make you look like a cheapie — a mortal sin in chick-talk! 

Presenting it to her

There are a number of ways to do this. If you want it to be a surprise gift, the classiest thing you can do is have it wrapped and posted straight to her with a sexy note. If you want to use it with her, you could put it under the pillow and give it to her on the spur of the moment, though this approach could have negative consequences if, for some reason, she has a problem with your purchase.  If you have any doubt about the reception you will receive, opt for the safety of the shore: Warn her, and give it to her in a non-sexual situation so she doesn’t feel pressured or uncomfortable. Make it funny or sexy — in other words, make it special in some way. It is highly likely that upon receiving your thoughtful and sexy gift, she will not be able to stop smiling and giggling.  

She'll turn it on and get turned on

Buying your girlfriend a sex toy doesn’t have to be a traumatizing experience. Finding a good shop, whether online or downtown, makes life a lot easier: The staff will be educated, the packaging will be discreet and the toy will go the distance and handle the punishment dished out to it. It takes balls for a man to buy his woman a sex toy without her input, so give yourself a pat on the back for being so brave and courageous — and let her enjoy the fruits of your labor.

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Cupcake Vibrator with 5 Modes

So cute, so sweet, but what a naughty treat!

The Cupcake vibrator is a life-size sex toy that fits in the palm of your hand and looks good enough to eat. The Cupcake is made from the softest silicone and boasts two speeds and three pulsation patterns. An on/off button is situated underneath the cup to achieve the five combinations. Each Cupcake comes with two AAA batteries, a retro mini baking tin and a beautiful 1950's style pinup girl tag.

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Shades Of Kink - What's Your Take?

Shades Of Kink - What's Your Take?

by pinktrickle

Fifty Shades of Kink now sweeping the nation.

By now a good portion of the female population, and some males, globally has read one, if not all of the "Fifty Shades Of Grey" novels.


Are you one of them?

If so, how much has it affected your sex life?

Has it opened your eyes to some new bondage fantasies?

And would you/have you acted on those fantasies?

Please leave your answers below.

Pipedream Fantasy Glide Sex Machine - Demo Video

Pipedream Fantasy Glide Sex Machine,  Demo Video

Fantasy Glide is much more versatile than you might think. "The demonstration video gives you a visual test-run before you buy. 

You'll see the different ways it can be used, alone or as a couple, and lots of really hot footage on top of it.

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Design Within Cute - This Month's Pink Pick

Design Within Cute

by Tami, Team Trickle

This month’s featured product is the Yooo. 

What is it?

It’s a cute little bubble of joy. It delights more than just the visual senses, but also your sexual senses. 

The bright colored spheres bring your pleasure zone alive.

Who would have thought that 3 little balls could be so much FUN?

The new, stylish, futuristic lay-on vibrator » Yooo « is fantastically awesome.

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I Want To Buy A Sex Toy. How do I decide what to get?

I want to buy a sex toy, but I don't know the difference between a vibrator and a dildo! How do I decide what to get?

Generally speaking, vibrators are battery-operated or electrically powered devices that buzz or vibrate. They are used mainly for external stimulation, so if you're looking for clitoral titillation — which most women need to climax — a vibrator is your best bet. Some suggested types to try: "egg" or "bullet" styles, which have a speed-control lever and can be used for solo satisfaction or with your partner since they fit between the two of you; "hand-free" models that are held in place by straps that resemble a panty; or simple body massagers that you can use on your clitoris, as well as on sore muscles. (Body massagers are pretty powerful and often recommended to women trying to achieve the big O for the first time.) When choosing a vibrator, you'll want to consider the intensity of the sensation and the noise level (the softer the material, the quieter the toy).

If you want the feeling of penetration, you'll want to try a dildo, which resembles a penis, usually doesn't vibrate, and can be used vaginally or anally. (If you want to try back-door play, make sure it has a base specifically designed so it doesn't slide up too far.) When choosing a dildo, you'll want to factor length and width into your decision. And if you're looking for G-spot stimulation, try a phallic-shaped toy with a specially curved top. For the best of both worlds, check out the ever-popular Rabbit, a two-in-one toy: The swirling shaft offers the pleasure of penetration, while the buzzing "rabbit ears" stimulate your clitoris.

You can pick up your passion prop at your local sex shop. Or, if you want to be a little more private about your purchase, you'll find plenty of well-stocked online boutiques (like pinktrickle.com) that list items with pictures, descriptions, and specifics about cleaning and storage.

Some playthings pointers: Read the instructions before using. Avoid materials that may give you an allergic reaction (e.g., latex), and wash your toy with antibacterial soap and hot water before and after use and let it dry completely. If your carnal contraption is made of a porous substance (like jelly rubber or cyberskin, which are harder to clean than nonporous products like silicone), or you want to use your toy vaginally after using it for anal action, cover it with a condom each time it's used to make sure it's clean.


Read more: How do I figure out what sex toy to buy? - Cosmopolitan

Packing Sexy, Packing Smart For The Holidays

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Packing Sexy, Packing Smart

If you can afford to fly somewhere this month to either increase or decrease the distance from you and your family now is the time to plan some of your packing. I'm not talking about which sweater to pack for your planned ugly holiday sweater party. I'm talking about sex toys, which, if you're packing to survive, should be something you've already thought of.

Unless you're heading out early, and your destination has a good sex shop, bringing even a small toy, a minor sexual distraction, can be a good way of taking care of yourself during what for most of us is a stressful time.

I travel with sex toys professionally, and I do it a lot. And over the years I've developed some of my own tricks, and picked up others from fellow travelers who are prone to over sharing on cross country flights once they find out what I do. And as a holiday gift, I share these tips with you.

Reader Stories: Tips for Discreet Sex Toy Airplane Trave

Read More - Vibes on a Plane and other Sex Toy Travel Tips

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The Sex Toy Hiding in Your Purse

It is tiny and sleek and can turn him on in 60 seconds or less. You’ll never look at your cell the same way again.

You know your cell phone can do a lot of really cool things. Unfortunately, you might be oblivious to the fact that it has carnal capabilities. That’s right — your most prized possession is actually a passion prop in disguise. Doubt us? Check out some of its naughtiest uses below.

Play “Name That Curve.” Using your cell camera, take shots that show just a hint of different curves on your body — your hips, breasts, butt, etc. — and then send them to your guy. Type a little note, and ask him to guess what part of your anatomy is in each photo.

Send your guy racy texts when he least expects them, like in the middle of his workday, while he’s running errands, or first thing in the morning after waking up. A couple examples: “I want ur hands on me now” or “U + me + my bed...8 p.m.”

While you’re messing around with your man, grab your cell and set your alarm to go off immediately, but instead of having it chime or make a beeping noise, put it on the vibrate mode. Then, as it continuously vibrates, touch it to his package to totally rev him up and get him ready for the main act.

Turn yourself on with the Boditalk Escort (ohmibod.com, $59), a tiny egg-shaped vibrator that you slip inside your vagina and is activated whenever a cell phone rings within 10 feet of you. Bonus: It has three different speeds to help maximize your pleasure.

When you are home together, go to another part of the house, and bring both his and your phones with you. Take off your clothes, then call his cell. When he finally tracks down the ringing, he’ll find you — totally naked and waiting.

Invent flirty acronyms to text each other that no one else can decode, such as UMMH (You Make Me Hot) or IWUIM (I Want You Inside Me). Next time you are in a group and can’t communicate directly, text him whatever suggestive thought is on your mind.

Set a shirtless picture of him as the wallpaper on your phone so that even when you’re apart, you’re able to view his hunky body and start fantasizing about what you’d like to do him.

Assign a sexy ring tone to your man so whenever he calls, you’ll automatically think dirty thoughts. Consider “baby-making” songs such as “Nice and Slow,” by Usher, or “My Love,” by Justin Timberlake.

Ask him to send you a scorching video of himself, and tell him that once he does, you’ll return the favor. Be careful not to send anything too graphic that includes identifying features, like your face. Read more at www.cosmopolitan.com

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Pinktrickle's Holiday Gift Guide

Welcome to pinktrickle's guide to holiday gifts for those pleasure connoisseurs on your list.

For Her

Elegance is the flagship vibrator. Its elegant and minimalist design unifies class and style. Its smooth medical-grade silicone and sleek digital control unit drives two motor on each ends delivering utmost pleasure. Elegance is splash proof, comes with gift box, charger, manual and satin pouch. GIVE THIS









Lockable vibrator case practically sell themselves-they're cute, they have an amazing price point, and they're a sexy way to keep your naughty valuables a secret from prying minds. The keyless locking system makes them perfect for multiple uses! Dimensions: L15inches x W8inches x H7inches
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The world`s first waterproof multi-speed massage glove. The Fukuoku Five Finger Massage Glove houses vibrators at the tip of each finger creating approximately 45,000 vibrations per minute at full speed. The waterproof battery compartment is in a pouch at the base of the glove. 3 AAA batteries included. GIVE THIS












This innovative lay-on vibrator stimulates the body’s external erotic hotspots with its ergonomically designed shape and small, but powerful motor. It can be used for massaging and caressing every sensitive spot and is suitable for women and men! The vibration level is adjustable so that each erotic zone can be aroused gently or intensely. Three additional vibration modes provide for a variety of different pulsating vibrations. Special features • one-touch buttons • battery operated • 8 vibration levels • 3 vibration programs • stronger, quieter, longer-lasting motor Size: 4.1 inch GIVE THIS

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For Him


COBRA libre is the toy for the discerning man. When the penis enters the toy, the smooth, soft silicone hugs it closely for thrilling stimulation. An innovative and stylish control element easily adjusts the two independent motors, offering a range of vibration possibilities never before seen. The patterns create pulsing vibrations just underneath the sensitive penis glans for mind-blowing, on-the-spot stimulation. This sporty, ergonomically designed toy promises easy handling and modern pleasure. Thanks to the CLICK ‘N’ CHARGE recharge technology, pit stops are short and efficient. The »COBRA libre« will get your motor revving quickly and is an absolute must-have!FF Texture: Soft and velvety Soft and velvety says it all: this finish is a treat to touch Special Features • effectively stimulates the most sensitive part of the penis • rechargeable • 100% waterproof • two powerful, quiet motors for unique vibration patterns • intuitive control with one touch buttons • very easy to clean • easy to handle • super soft and velvety silicone GIVE THIS





He can see himself like never before. The Fleshlight Ice offers all the same super-soft pleasures of the original Fleshlight, but with a clear sleeve color and case for enhances visual stimulation. Fleshlight Ice is available with the exclusive Crystal inner texture which has been designed to stimulate your penis with distinctive sensations all throughout. As you explore the Fleshlight Ice you'll begin to appreciate the subtle nuances each uniquely chiseled pleasure chamber has to offer. GIVE THIS










He's always dreamt of fucking a busty bitch with huge 36DD's, so what are you waiting for? 
Fuck Her Big Fat Titties until you drain every ounce of ball-juice from your cock! Big tit lovers rejoice, we have designed a perfect pair of juicy juggs built for fucking and sucking! These massive DD melons are soft, bouncy, and made to jiggle and squish with each thrust. Slide your cock between her huge cans and titty-fuck her all night long! Pinch her nipples, slap her titties, and do as you please with her perfect pair of huge hooters. Enjoy every carefully-molded, 3D detail of her bustline--from her amazing under-boob, to her sexy side-boob, to her super-realistic shoulders, every angle is eye-candy for your cock! Best of all, every inch of her supple Fanta-Flesh skin is yours to enjoy. This is the most lifelike, realistic torso masturbator ever created and a must-have for all big boob enthusiasts. With 12 lbs. of super-soft Fanta-Flesh engulfing and massaging your cock, you'll swear you have a real DD rack right in front of you any time you get horny. Dress her up in your favorite bra or bustier, put her in a wife-beater for your very own personal wet t-shirt contest, or take her in the bath or shower for some tempting ta-ta shower play. Her perky, pink nipples are always rock-hard, and she never says no to a good time! When you're done, blow a load all over her big fat titties and give her the pearl necklace she always wanted. Cleanup is a snap after the fun with Pipedream Toy Cleaner and warm water, then apply Pipedream Extreme Revive cornstarch powder to restore the masturbator to soft, like-new quality. 
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For Them

Liberator Sex Furniture - Liberator sex furniture helps you jazz up your sexual positions, while maintaining ultimate comfort. GIVE THIS

Clit Flicker and Erection enhancer cock ring has a powerful, wireless stimulator that vibrates the flickering tongue. Man wears it to maintain his erection and feels vibrations and the woman will love the vibrating tickler on each of the man's thrusts. Cell batteries included. GIVE THIS

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THIS YEAR GIVE THE GIFT OF PLEASURE

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More Positive Than Negative Effects of Masturbation.

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Effects of Masturbation

Surprisingly little research attention has been paid to the specific effects of masturbation. The history of masturbation is littered with moral condemnation and scientific inaccuracies regarding its negative effects but thankfully there finally seems to be medical agreement that masturbation is a healthy form of sexual expression, and one with more positive than negative effects. Still many of us believe the masturbation myths we are raised with, which makes it worthwhile to learn the truth about the effects of masturbation on the body and the mind.

Masturbation can increase self-knowledge:

Sex educators don’t call masturbation the cornerstone of sexual health for nothing. Masturbation is the first, safest, and best way to get to know how your sexual body works. You can learn what turns you on and what doesn’t. You can learn how to give yourself sexual pleasure in a hurry, or when you’ve got nothing but time. As an educational tool, masturbation is better than any textbook, video or website you’ll ever read (that includes this one!).

Masturbation can lead to self-discovery:

Even if you know how to get the job done, masturbatorally speaking, your capacity to feel sexual pleasure is limitless and masturbation is a great way to find new functions for familiar parts. Often when we’re having sex with a partner we might be too self-conscious, shy, or otherwise distracted to pay close attention to what’s happening in our own body. Masturbation, when you’re doing it by yourself, allows you to focus on the subtlety of your own sexual response , and possibly discover things you hadn’t previously realized were part of your sexuality.

Masturbation is nature’s sleep aid:

While thinking about sex might keep you up at night having it, including masturbation, is a great way to deal with insomnia. In a 2000 study of U.S. women, 32% said that in the past three months they masturbated as a way to fall asleep. Whether it’s because of the hormones and endorphins released following orgasm, the benefits of clearing your head, or the mini cardio workout, masturbation that ends in orgasm is a great way to get to sleep without pills, television, or counting sheep.

Masturbation provides pain relief:

Whether you’re experiencing temporary or chronic pain from sore joints, headaches, menstrual cramps, or other causes, masturbation and orgasm can, in some cases, provide natural pain relief. While we don’t know exactly why, research has documented arousal and orgasm resulting in reduced pain thresholds. It’s worth pointing out that for some conditions (like migraine headaches ) orgasm can either reduce the pain or increase it.

Masturbation is a great stress reliever:

Several studies have documented the relaxation effects of masturbation induced orgasm. Aside from the physical benefits, masturbation, when you’re doing it right, is all about “you time” and taking time to focus on yourself is a great way to break up the stress of a busy life. Particularly when used with sexual fantasy, masturbation can be a great escape, a way to let off some steam, and while masturbation alone might not be enough to deal with all the stress in your life, it’s a healthy, free, and non-pharmaceutical tool right at your fingertips (or other body part or sex toy, as the case may be).

Masturbation may offer cancer prevention:

Two recent studies found a link between the number of times a man ejaculates and the likelihood of getting prostate cancer. The prostate gland produces and stores seminal fluid and the fluid can build up in the prostate if a man goes a long time without ejaculating. This build up isn’t always a problem, but in the studies men who ejaculate more were less likely to be diagnosed with prostate cancer. Another researcher has proposed a theory that orgasm may offer some protective effect against breast cancer via oxytocin released at orgasm.

Sources: Cornog, M. The Big Book of Masturbation San Francisco: Down There Press, 2003. Komisaruk, B., Beyer-Flores, C., and Whipple, B. The Science of Orgasm Baltimore: Johns Hopkins University Press, 2006. Read more at sexuality.about.com

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What's the Best Way to Travel Discreetly with Your Sex Toys?

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Readers Respond: What's the Best Way to Travel Discreetly with Your Sex Toys?

From the article: Vibrators on an Airplane and Other Sex Toy Travel Tips

Some sex toy travelers only have themselves to blame (like the guy who told officials his penis pump was a bomb). But more often, unfeeling, confused or embarrassed security personnel are at fault when your trip with sex toys goes bad. There are things you can do to make sure taking your vibrator or sex toy with you on a flight won't result in losing your toy -- or your privacy. Share your stories -- good, bad and ugly -- of traveling with your sex toys. Share Your Stories

Carry-On Is the Way to Go

I am in direct sales of adult bedroom toys and I often travel to do in-home parties and always carry my demo on so as not to have my bag "lost". As I instruct my customers, I always take the batteries out (it prolongs the life of the toy and the batteries) before going through the security screening. I was once told by a former TSA agent (who is now a business partner) that with the batteries in, it looks like the barrel of a loaded gun. I haven't had my bags searched since. —Guest The Passion Prencess

Sex Toys Travel to Saudi Arabia

I have been told by a sex toy trader in Saudi Arabia that Gel dildos don't appear in the luggage detection system at airports. But the best thing I usually do is put dildos and other small vibrators in my hand bag at the US airport. In the plane before landing at the Saudi airport I put them in my pocket. They don't search persons only luggage. —Guest Sami

My experience with sex toy travel

On two occasions I have had sex toys cut to pieces and destroyed by the TSA. In your carry on they will get pulled out and checked by the inspectors, but they do it in front of you, and I've never had a toy taken or destroyed yet from my carry on. I'm not sure that there is a best way to discreetly travel with toys. —sekso

Security Scanner

I was patiently waiting for my carry-on luggage (with my favorite dildo inside) to pass through the scanners and looked back to see one male TSA employee call over his friends to look at the screen. I'll never forget overhearing his comment "Now, that's what I call a joystick!" I merely rolled my eyes and tried to act nonchalant to hide my annoyance. —sassycat5

Sex toys in Muslim/Arab countries.

I am an American woman and travel often to Muslim countries.I am actually in Kuwait as I type this. Everything that was said about traveling with toys is correct but, it needs to be said that bringing sex toys into most of these particular countries (Saudi Arabia, Kuwait, Iraq, Iran, ect...) is illegal and is also illegal to own them or have them in your possession. Just wanted to say that since I am also a sex toy reviewer and sex blogger and hate to travel without some of my favorite toys. Better to be safe (leaving them at home if you are going to one of these countries)than have them confiscated or worse, find yourself in trouble with the legal authorities. —ThePinkPoppet

Battery operated toys...

After my wife's quick thinking explaining a buzzing suitcase as "must be the electric toothbrush" to my mother, I remembered an old Boy Scout trick, used to keep flashlights from turning on in your backpack. Take a small strip of cardstock or other heavy paper, and slip it between the terminal and battery. This will prevent electrical contact from being made, and keep you from having to dig around to find the batteries when you need them, because they're still right there in the toy. —Guest a nonny moose

Put the 10' Silicone in your carry on!

I want to challenge your advice above to check your larger silicone toys. Every time I have checked a large silicone toy my bag has been pulled for hand screening. Every time. On two occasions I have had the toys cut to pieces and destroyed by the TSA. Sure in your carry on they will get pulled out and checked by the inspectors, but they do it in front of you, and I've never had a toy taken or destroyed yet from my carry on. I'm not sure that there is a best way to discreetly travel with toys - I think keeping your toys with you when possible (check hand cuffs and yes, large metal toys) and being able to talk about them with confidence when asked is a far better way of making sure they arrive with you and ready for use at your destination. —Guest travelling tranny Read more at sexuality.about.com

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Our orgasms are different -- men and women's

How to Have an Orgasm Like a Man

Our orgasms are different -- men and women's -- but there are similarities when it comes to our pleasure and men aren't the only ones to ejaculate. Nope. They're not. The first time I tried to female ejaculate I was alone with a mirror and a long, curved hard plastic sex toy. I spent a time with myself and my toy, until finally I felt this feeling of fullness. That's when I pulled the toy out and watched in the mirror. To my surprise, and delight, in the next few moments a clear, wet spurt of fluid landed at least two inches from where I was actually laying.

If you haven't already noticed, I'm a TMI girl. Yes, I'm an ejaculator. I don't have to ejaculate to have an orgasm though. And I never ejaculate as much as those porn stars do on camera, but more on that to come.

First, let's get down to what is, and what isn't, female ejaculate. True female ejaculate is not urine, it's actually fluid from the skene's glands, or female prostate. To GPS the skene's glands, look on either side of the urethra. Or don't look. The glands are really small, just like the urethral opening.

Female ejaculate contains certain things you don't find in urine, like glucose, fructose, prostatic acid phosphatase, and PSA. These are also things found in male prostatic fluid. Genuine female ejaculate, whether it squirts, spurts or dribbles, is no more than teaspoon in volume. That wet spot on the bed? That could be female ejaculate. The buckets of liquid certain porn performers seem to produce? That's not usually genuine female ejaculate, even if it ejaculates out of her body.

I learned the trick to producing copious amounts of ejaculate when working on my own educational DVD series. I was casting for a segment on the subject, so I googled female ejaculation. That's when Cytherea’s name popped up. She’s a porn star known for squirting (another popular term used to reference ejaculation). I was impressed with her ejaculatory resume, so I hired her to ejaculate for my movie too.

Cytherea ejaculated ... a lot. And she drank a lot of water, in fact, she was never without a water bottle on set. It seems the key to shooting out buckets of clear fluid is staying hydrated. The more hydrated she was, the more she would ejaculate.

In order to learn to ejaculate, get comfortable and get aroused, and then start exploring inside your vagina. To make it happen, you'll need to massage the urethral sponge, aka G-spot. That means you (or someone/something you trust) will need to go inside your vagina. Not super far in, since the G-spot is usually towards the entrance of the vagina. With arousal, the G-spot feels like a Ruffles potato chip (think ridges) or the roof of your mouth.

Since we're massaging the urethral sponge, but because we never want anything to go into our urethral openings, ouch, we rub the top wall of the vagina, and not the bottom wall of the urethra. We need to use some pressure.The harder and longer you rub, the more likely the urge to expel fluid will become. Like a sponge under water, the urethral sponge fills with fluid and feels noticeably denser before ejaculation.

For those who can't figure out if they like G-spot stimulation, or what the big deal is, remember, the G-spot is only one club on the strip. There are lots of other places to party for pleasure. I generally ejaculate if stimulated farther back, along the top wall of the vagina. That's where you'll come in contact with other fabulous spots on the sponge. One in particular, and one used during female ejaculation, is called the A-spot. The A-spot has the same feelings as the G-spot, but it's closer to the cervix than it is to the entrance of the vagina.

If you continue to rub deep enough, hard enough or long enough, that’s when you can produce female ejaculate. And if you begin to rub deep and hard and it feels like it's time to pee, then you're moving in the right direction. (Pee before you start to avoid feeling embarrassed by this sensation.) While all of this is going on inside of you, use your pelvic floor muscles to tighten around the finger, toy or penis for added build-up and even more fireworks during expulsion.

Here's the clencher. When I want to ejaculate, I have to push out. When we think about orgasm, women tend to pull in. We usually think about tightening our genitals and squeezing up, but in order to ejaculate, I have to bear down and push out whatever is inside of me.

You don't have to ejaculate to have amazing orgasms. Learning to ejaculate is a commitment, and if you choose to commit, then once you learn, you'll understand your body even better than you ever imagined. And yes, I do believe all women can learn to ejaculate, but I don't think all women need to or want to. It's not always a satisfying orgasm, and sometimes it's a big mess. Still, I like that I do it.

Does learning to ejaculate interest you? Have you done it before?

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About the author Jamye Waxman M.Ed is a sex educator and writer who loves to cuddle. She believes that intimacy takes work but should be fun, and communication is the key. She's also a TMI kind of girl.

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