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How To Buy Her A Sex Toy

Silicon, rubber, metal, or glass

You don’t want to go overboard with the first sex toy; keep this one simple, subtle and functional. Silicon and rubber have the most life-like feel to them and are always a good choice. They are also very safe, and warm up under a hot tap easily.

Metal is a bad choice because it is quite cold to start off with, though its firmness may be the selling point. Metal can look quite attractive too, and since sex toys aren’t the most gorgeous things on earth, it’s a plus if they’re not ugly.There are some very beautiful glass dildos available. Glass offers a very smooth sensation, and can be cooled or heated to give her some variety. Opting for the "Joe-blow average" toy is your best bet. Stick to the basics. If in doubt, go with silicon. Silicon is neither too soft nor too hard and is durable and hygienic, making it an excellent choice for sex toys. 

Quality vs. cost

Don’t scrimp and save on this toy because you want quality. Having a toy not work or fall to bits at the crucial moment is going to make you look like a cheapie — a mortal sin in chick-talk! 

Presenting it to her

There are a number of ways to do this. If you want it to be a surprise gift, the classiest thing you can do is have it wrapped and posted straight to her with a sexy note. If you want to use it with her, you could put it under the pillow and give it to her on the spur of the moment, though this approach could have negative consequences if, for some reason, she has a problem with your purchase.  If you have any doubt about the reception you will receive, opt for the safety of the shore: Warn her, and give it to her in a non-sexual situation so she doesn’t feel pressured or uncomfortable. Make it funny or sexy — in other words, make it special in some way. It is highly likely that upon receiving your thoughtful and sexy gift, she will not be able to stop smiling and giggling.  

She'll turn it on and get turned on

Buying your girlfriend a sex toy doesn’t have to be a traumatizing experience. Finding a good shop, whether online or downtown, makes life a lot easier: The staff will be educated, the packaging will be discreet and the toy will go the distance and handle the punishment dished out to it. It takes balls for a man to buy his woman a sex toy without her input, so give yourself a pat on the back for being so brave and courageous — and let her enjoy the fruits of your labor.

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If you like sex. I should probably try this.

Sleeping Separately Won't Kill Your Marriage

Sleeping separately won't kill your marriage -- in fact, it can help it. A lot. Societal conventions say that moving into separate bedrooms is the beginning of the end of a marriage, but that is simply not true. According to one recent study done in Toronto, 30-40% of couples are already sleeping separately. Many couples just don’t want to talk about it publicly, because people assume that if you are sleeping separately from your spouse, your marriage is in trouble.

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But in reality, the stresses of people with different sleep cycles and styles trying to sleep together night after night after night can create the kind of stress and tension that can cause a marriage to break down. This is especially true in military marriages, where the spouse who is not in the military constantly has to adjust the other spouse being gone, coming back, and getting up at all hours.

Spouses of combat veterans may find their spouses have significant sleep problems because of post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)and/or traumatic brain injury (TBI) -- which can result in the other spouse not really sleeping, as well. That was the case for us. I am not a great sleeper under any circumstances, so trying to sleep with a spouse who can’t sleep without heavy medication caused a lot of stress.

Without knowing it and while he was sleeping, usually under the influence of heavy prescription medication, my spouse has hit me, choked me, and thrown me out of bed. I could move closer to him in my sleep and wake up suddenly with his hands around my throat -- because, in his sleep, he perceived my moving closer to him as a threat.

Sleep is important for everyone. Sleep is when the brain declutters itself and processes events. It’s been proven that you need restful sleep in order to stay healthy. Lack of sleep causes irritability, cognitive problems, and weight gain.

For people who are struggling with PTSD or healing from TBI, sleep is essential for healing. My husband’s neurologist recommended that people with TBI get at least 9 hours of restful sleep at night. Lack of restful sleep is one of the biggest health problems that plague our society -- and, ironically, it’s one that is very easy for some people to fix without any kind of medical help or intervention.

When one spouse can’t sleep, or snores, or paces, or wants the room super hot or cold, and the other spouse has similar issues or is a light sleeper, no one is getting the healing sleep they need. Over time that can seriously damage your health, make you gain weight, and keep the spouse with PTSD/TBI from healing.

"What about sex?" That’s the most frequently asked question about sleeping separately. How many couples only have sex immediately before they go to sleep? Not many. But you can always slip into your spouse’s bed before falling asleep or in the morning to have sex. Sleeping separately can radically improve your sex life. Both people are much more likely to be in the mood for sex when they are well rested. It also makes sex more fun choosing whose bed to have sex in. There are a lot of more ways to spice up romantic time together and it will be more fun when you have to make an effort.

In the study I quoted above, many couples who sleep separately reported to researchers that moving into separate bedrooms dramatically improved their sex lives. Physical closeness and intimacy apart from sex is important too, but couples can still get that. Taking naps together are a fantastic way to cuddle and be close without the hassles of sleeping with someone else. My husband and I take naps on weekends that help us reconnect. Another option would be to sleep separately during the week and sleep together on weekend nights. That way you can get restful sleep during the week but the intimacy that you crave on the weekends.

"We don’t have enough space for separate bedrooms." That’s the other big objection that most people raise. I know that space is a legitimate issue. My husband and I chose not to have kids so we generally always have an extra bedroom or two that we can use but people who have kids often don’t have that extra room. But that doesn’t mean you can’t have a separate sleeping space.

If you can’t have an entire bedroom for yourself or your spouse what about carving out a corner of another room? A futon set up behind a curtained off area in the den, playroom, or finished basement will work just fine. Or convert the spare room into a spouse bedroom. Set your guests up on an air mattress in the living room at the holidays. Get creative with the space you have. It really is worth it.

Another benefit to sleeping separately is a sense of privacy that many people give up when they get married. Some people are more independent than others and need a sense of having their own space. Personally, I am an extremely independent person, and I need to have a space of my own with all my stuff. My husband likes to have a room of his own where he can display all his coins, photos from deployment, memorials to the friends he has lost, and other very personal items.

Sometimes living with someone who has PTSD and TBI can be really intense, and it helps that we both have a space to go and breathe when things get stressful or intense. We both enjoy having our own space to meditate, do yoga, and read. We have slept apart for the last several years, and would never go back to trying to force ourselves to sleep together every night again.

Of course this doesn’t work for everyone, but for a lot of military couples or couples dealing with combat-related PTSD and TBI, it can be a marriage-saver. Don’t be afraid to try sleeping separately. If sleeping together was the only thing that kept a marriage strong then no military marriages would ever survive.

By their very nature, military marriages involve long separations. Deployments, temporary duty assignment, trainings, and all the other facets of military life mean that one spouse ends up alone a lot of the time. One of the hardest parts about deployment for me, before we started sleeping apart, was learning to sleep without him when he left and then learning to sleep with him again when he came home. On his second deployment, we were sleeping separately, and the transition was much easier when he came home, because we could both get restful and healing sleep. Even a few nights a week apart can make a huge positive difference.

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Ten Tips For A Happy Sex Life Into Old Age

• Be tender, be understanding and don't exert any emotional pressure...it may start and end with stroking, kissing and touching. If it becomes sexual, so much the better;
• Don't think that intercourse is essential...mutual masturbation can be as enjoyable as penetration;
• Accept that sex won't be as energetic as in your younger years;
• Don't be ashamed to use sex aids, if agreed by both partners; 
• Don't stick to set times and days for sex - be spontaneous;
• Make sure you have enough time without interruptions;
• Find out the possible side-effects of any medication you are taking, particularly if they are likely to affect your libido/desire levels, and if necessary change the medication;
• Avoid too much alcohol before having sex;
• Take advantage of Viagra, Cialis and other medications that counter erectile dysfunction;
• Seek counselling if necessary...sometimes the issues affecting a relationship are best discussed through a neutral third party.

Glass Reinvented: Q&A With Joyful Pleasure

Founded and ran by industry veterans, Joyful Pleasure was rolled out three years ago as a boutique brand dedicated to producing unique glass pleasure products. Most widely known for its distinctive pepper-shaped dildo, Joyful Pleasure continues to grow and reinvent itself. Company owner Keith Gordon recently sat down with XBIZ to discuss the growth of Joyful Pleasure and how his roots in fetish porn served as an inspiration for the line of glass toys.

 

When was Joyful Pleasure developed?

Joyful Pleasure was developed about three years ago by me because I was selling another glass line that was beautiful, but very expensive. A lot of customers loved but it wasn’t affordable, so I begged the manufacturer to please make designs that were more affordable – he wouldn’t do it so I said, “you know what, I’m going to do it myself.

How much industry experience is behind the brand?

I worked and owned Bizarre Video for over 20 years, Dennis has been with the company for 10 - 12 years, Paula — my other sales person has been with my company for over 25 years, even before I even got there — she worked for my dad. So between all of us, it’s been a very long time.

Who designs the glass toys?

We went to a European designer and he designs a lot of the shapes that we have. There are a lot of very unique styles. Our first batch we got designed in Europe, the second batch we went my uncle Teddy, who owns Nasstoys to his people that he knows in China and we got the same designs hand blown there to make them more affordable. This allows the store owner to get great quality at an affordable price.

What makes Joyful Pleasure’s collection unique from other glass lines?

Very simple — there’s only a handful of glass companies, and they are all great companies but if you look at their designs, they’re all very similar if not the same. I didn’t want to come out with something that would be the same, I wanted to create something that was completely unique with very different styles. When people come to my booth, they’re like “oh my God, that’s beautiful, we love the designs” because they’re different. So Joyful Pleasure stands out for its unique designs, it’s very affordable and with beautiful packaging. Our products have a window that shows the shopper exactly what they’re buying, and the description is on the clean white box in three different languages.

One thing that stands out with Joyful Pleasure is the weight of each item. Compared with our competition, ours are heavier. I make the mold a little bit thicker to make the items heavier. Customers like that — they want something that they can really hang on to.

How many items are there in the collection?

We now have 27 different styles. We came out with nine two years ago, and released second collection of nine styles last year, and we just recently launched another nine. We have total availability on every item. We were shipping out of two locations — East Coast and West Coast — to make it easier and so customers get them quicker. Now they’ll most likely all come from our West Coast office, but we always have plenty in stock.

There is currently more styles in development. We have the next 18 styles in development now, and the plan is to release nine new styles every four months so we don’t flood the market. While some companies oversaturate the market with monthly releases, we are a glass company and glass is a niche market so I don’t want to do that. I want the store to buy this product, take their time, customers come in, they buy it, they like it, they remember the name and when new styles come in, they’re happy.

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What is the brand’s objective?

The brand’s objective is basically to educate the consumer that there are other toys out there besides rabbits or rubber goods. People need entertainment in life. When women and men come home after a stressful day at work and they want to have fun and glass is something that’s new to people. Glass is still new to some women. They get a glass toy and they don’t know what to do with it — it doesn’t vibrate … they don’t know that it can be warmed or chilled to achieve different sensations, but more and more people are becoming more aware of this, and I want to bring that sort of discovery to the world. Coming from Bizarre Video, nobody did fetish, everybody was scared to make videos. It was a very under-served niche market but my father said no, let’s do it! We’re not doing anything illegal, it’s a lifestyle, if you don’t like it, don’t buy it. So coming from that background of making something that was taboo, and now it’s mainstream, I see glass as something that’s intimidating for some people but has the potential to become very popular.

How are Joyful Pleasure products best displayed?

It’s displayed two ways. First is our packaging, it’s probably one of the best out there. It’s clean, it’s white, it’s classy and you see the toy. The second thing that I’ve been telling all of my retailers is that I had acrylic stands made and retailers can take the toy out of the box and display it. It’s so beautiful so that when people see it, they can pick it, and it’s not just lying on its side on a shelf. We just did a deal with Lion’s Den retail chain and they’re displaying one of each style out of their box. Mark from Castle Megastore displays them out of the box too and has also praised its effectiveness. He suggests displaying them in a glass box with lights so that the glass toys really shine. He’s really a visionary.

What makes this line a potential bestseller?

We already have bestselling styles. After being in the glass business for two years I know what sells, I know what people are looking for. Our double-ended designs do very well for us, also the Pepper is very popular in Texas. The Indigo and the Majestic — which appeals to the gay demographic — and the Gemini also do very well for us. We have a lot of great styles and that’s what we stick to. Some of our styles glow in the dark and those fun characteristics are what customers really want.

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A Woman’s Guide to Reviving Sexual Libido

Libido simply means sex drive. A woman’s desire for sex can vary individually. When a woman is in a new relationship she will experience what is commonly called “the honeymoon phase” where sex is abundant whilst over a period a woman’s sex drive will decrease. The frequency of sexual activity ranges from daily to not happening at all. If you are concerned about the decrease in your sexual libido, you might need to seek professional help.

What causes female sexual dysfunction?

Female sexual dysfunction is caused by changes in the sexual desire of women. Menopause is common to induce a decline in a woman’s desire for sex. This is primarily due to a hormonal imbalance. Dyspareunia can cause pain during sexual activity with women. Women who have given birth can experience a decline in their sexual libidos due to hormonal changes especially with the increase of prolactin which is responsible for decreasing female’s sexual libido.

Infections

Infections can also be contributing factors to female sexual dysfunction. Women do experience issues with achieving orgasm and the underlying factors which cause this can stem from both medical and psychological reasons. Infections such as thrush or yeast infections can take any woman’s desire for sex away in an instant.

Diagnosis methods

There are different diagnosis methods which can be utilized in diagnosing women with low sexual libidos. Doctors can perform physical examinations which consist of family histories as well as checking the overall health of the female who is experiencing a low sexual libido. Blood and urine tests are utilized with diagnosing methods as well as hormone tests.

Treatments

Reduced sexual libidos are treated with various styles. Treatments can include seeking any underlying medical problems which the patient might have. Hormone replacement therapy which typically adjusts the balance of hormones in a female’s body. Anti-depressants and stress management have proved to work with females suffering from low sexual libidos. Counseling aids as well with the emotional factors involved with females suffering from sexual issues.

Counseling

Many counseling options are available for women if first they become accepting of the problem. Counseling can aid women with learning new communication skills which will in return aid them in their relationships with their sexual partners. Underlying issues can be addressed through therapy as well as education on different sexual techniques and fantasies and desires.

Some women are reluctant to seek counseling to aid them with their low sexual libido issue however, it is of the utmost importance that if emotional or psychological factors are the problem for their low sexual libido’s they must seek counseling to realize what these issues are.

Where should women seek help for low sexual libidos?

Where can women seek help for their low sexual libidos? Their first place to check should always be with their family doctor. A woman’s family doctor can provide referrals to sex therapists or psychologist. Urologists can aid women as well if there are some underlying medical problems which are affecting a woman’s desire to have sex.

Things every woman should remember.

Some things which women need to know about low sexual libidos is that the desire for sexual activity varies individually. Some of the many factors which can affect low sexual libidos in women can be stress, feeling rushed, not being compatible with your sexual partner and any types of drugs which you might currently be taking.

Illegal drug usage as well as alcohol abuse can cause a low sexual libido in women. If you are currently taking prescribed medications, you should check to see what the side effects are. If one of the side effects is a decrease in your sex drive, discuss with your medical doctor an alternative to the medication which you are currently taking.

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10 Health Benefits Of Masturbation For Men

By Ipshita Kumar

How do you like your ‘me-time’? Do you like to fly solo? Yes, we’re talking about good old masturbation.

And however you do it (or don’t do it), there is nothing wrong with taking some time to pleasure yourself, getting to know your body, and exploring what turns you on. And just as taking a shower should be a regular occurrence, so too should be cleaning your pipes, as the health benefits of masturbation are galore. 

Here are the 10 reasons why you should take matters into your own hands right now:

Manages Premature Ejaculation

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Sex therapists across the globe have found that men who experience premature ejaculation during sexual intercourse can benefit from masturbation about 2 hours before sex. This enables them to have a longer duration of intercourse before another ejaculation comes on.

Prevents Prostate Cancer

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A 2003 Australian study found that men who ejaculated more than five times a week were a third less likely to develop prostate cancer. Disease-causing toxins build up in your urogenital tract and when you rub one out, you flush the bad guys out of your system.

Makes You Harder

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With age, you naturally lose muscle tone…even down there. Regular sex or masturbation works out your pelvic floor muscles to prevent erectile dysfunction and incontinence. It keeps the angle of your dangle perky. You must aim to (well!) arrive three to five times a week for rock-solid results.

Improves Sperm Motility

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Some studies found that masturbation improves some quality and motility. “Theoretically, a man masturbating before intercourse releases the residual sperms in the semen transporting tubules. This paves way for new ‘better’ sperms which are released during the sexual act and increase the chances of conception, which can add to your health benefits,” says Dr Mahesh Nawal, an Indore-based sexologist and President of ASECT.

Helps You Last Longer

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Taking yourself to palm prom may help you stretch your sack sessions. Train yourself by timing how long it takes you to orgasm, suggests Dr Nawal. If it usually takes two minutes solo, try for three next time. Or count how many strokes you need to get to your happy place. If you’re spurting after 50, shoot for 60. Practice makes perfect, right?

Reduces Nasal Congestion

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Another small study demonstrated reduction of swelling of vessels in the nose during sex and masturbation. This theoretically may improve on symptoms of the common cold, hay fever, allergic rhinitis and other such health-related ailments.

Manages Stress And Depression

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Masturbation has been used in the management of stress, as it results in release of feel-good hormones, called oxytocin, in the body. It has also been found useful in dealing with depression.

Ups Your Immunity

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Ejaculation increases levels of the hormone cortisol, says Dr Ashish Sabberwal, senior consultant of urology, Fortis Escorts Institute, New Delhi. Cortisol, which usually gets a bad rap as a havoc-wrecking stress hormone, actually helps regulate and maintain your immunity in the small doses. “Masturbation can product the right environment for a strengthened immune system,” Dr Sabberwal says.

Boosts Your Mood

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Masturbating releases a slew of feel-good neurochemicals like dopamine and oxytocin that lift your spirits, boost your satisfaction, and activate the reward circuits in your brain. An orgasm is the biggest non-drug blast of dopamine available, and benefits your health in more than one way.

Prevents Pregnancy And STDs

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Last but not the least, this one is for both you and your girl! For couples not intending to get the girl pregnant, masturbation is a safe way of attaining sexual satisfaction without vaginal penetration which would otherwise lead to an unintended pregnancy. If the man’s penis is rubbed around the vulva and spills sperms there, there could be a chance of getting pregnant. Masturbation poses no risk of contracting an STD. However, mutual masturbation may however result in exchange of sexual fluids when partners touch each other’s genitals, says Dr Nawal.

As a last note, masturbation will not put hair on your palms, make you go blind, kill a kitten, cause infertility, or make you turn gay! What it rather does is allow you to understand your body better, help you to release tension and pursue sexual pleasure on your own, provide an option for a safer sex activity with partners, and let you explore your own fantasies. As the saying goes, who can really love you more than yourself?

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How to find the right sex toy

'I want to start using sex toys – help!'

As one female reader asks how to spice up her sex life using sex toys, Dr Petra Boynton offers the low down on what sorts of toys are available, where to buy and what's appropriate for you.

I want to surprise my boyfriend perhaps by buying a vibrator. What’s the best way to do this? I’ve never used one before.

I suspect I’m not alone in imagining the scene when you surprise him with a vibrator. Leaving good-natured humour aside, let’s focus on what might suit you both.

What does he want?

Frequently we’re led to believe from sex advice books or articles that everyone loves sex so there’s no need for clarification, leading to the unhelpful stereotype all men like anything sexual they’re offered, and will never have questions or concerns. If he’s already mentioned liking toys it’s still worth having a conversation. If this isn’t something you’ve ever discussed or you’re even sure he wants to do, don’t assume without asking.

He may have some anxieties – it’s not unusual for partners to worry that they would be replaced or feel intimidated by a vibrator. The resources linked to below might reassure him here. Alternatively he may be very keen, or perhaps not bothered either way.

What about you?

You say you’ve not used a vibrator before. It might be this is something you’ve always wanted to try or feel will be a big turn on for you. You might want to explore using a toy alone before introducing the idea to your boyfriend. Sometimes we feel pressure from the media and sex product manufacturers that if we’re not having frequent sex with a box full of gadgets by the bed then we’re boring or deficient. Be certain, before you offer to buy and use a toy, this is something that appeals to you both.

If it turns out he’s as keen as you then it won’t be a complete surprise if you get a toy, but you can still control how and when you show him to add elements of suspense or anticipation if desired.

Thinking about toys

Considering toys can be helpful because it involves you focusing on:

• communication
• identifying your wants and desires and articulating those
• hearing and responding to your partners wishes
• exploring together what feels good
• being mindful you have the right to change your mind at any time

It’s also an opportunity to consider other things you’ve perhaps wanted to do (which don’t have to just involve genital stimulation). As well asenhancing other areas of your relationship.

You’ve used the word ‘vibrator’ but people can often use this to mean other ‘sex toys’. Some sex toys aren’t designed for genital use at all but may stimulate other body parts and can be used for pleasure, pain or restraint. On reflection you both may desire something not for genital play. Or may be for genital stimulation but not be a vibrator.

How do you want to use your toy?

Below are links to a number of thoughtful resources by Cory Silverberg that will he you identify if you want a toy to use:

• on yourself while he watches or holds you?
• on him?
• alongside intercourse, or that both of you can share/swap?
• in bed, or somewhere else? Do you need a toy that’s waterproof (for use in the bath or shower)?

Where to buy

You can buy sex toys online or in adult stores. Some pharmacies sell a limited range of products. The quality of products and sales advice can vary. It’s okay to shop around both the outlets that sell toys as well as considering different toys to suit your needs before you make a final purchase. Looking for toys together and discussing this might be a turn on in itself.

Other things to think about

Accessibility

Not everyone finds toys easy to use – particularly if there are problems with mobility or chronic pain. Often sex toy guides don’t focus on diverse genitals. This resource explains how to adapt toys to your individual needs.

Lubricant

Toys can be very enjoyable but if you are using them in or around your genitals or bum using a lubricant is important to avoid discomfort. Check you pick a lubricant that’s suitable for use with your toy.

Hygiene

Remember you will need to keep your toys clean, and if you’re swapping between your or his bum and your genitals then you potentially can spread bugs. Using different toys for anal and other stimulation is a good idea, or covering phallic shaped toys with condoms if swapping between holes or using with other people. More on hygiene here

What next?

You’ve several choices, so having talked about toys you might decide they are something you:

• keep as fantasy but don’t try in practice
• use toys, but on yourself/alone rather than with each other
• use together, in front of or on/in each other

You might find toys become an integral part of your sexual life, particularly if involved with fantasy or role-play. They could be an occasional treat. Or a product that ends up discarded at the back of your sock drawer. You might have to shop around to find the right toy for you.

The decision is both of yours to make.

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Discovering the Effects of Sleep Incompatibility in Couples

When it comes to sleep, do you think you and your partner are compatible? There are many ways to explain how couples should be comfortable with each other’s sleep habits; for instance, the time that you both go to bed and the activities that you individually do before going to sleep. As people have their own sleep routines and habits, it is just normal that you and your partner may have differences in such things as well. But what’s important to look into here is how you both adjust to those differences and whether they can actually affect your own sleep and your relationship as a whole.

Many Couples Suffer

If you think you are deprived of having good quality sleep because of your partner’s sleep habits, you’re definitely not alone. In one study where 2,000 participated, it was found that more than half of them had interrupted sleep between 1 and 3 times a week. What’s worse is that the effects of being restless in their sleep come out the next day and they interfere with how they perform their regular activities.

So what could be the culprit of this? In most cases, it’s the snoring or the unusual sleep behavior of their bed partners.

According to sleep experts, snoring is among the major conflicts of couples during bedtime. But snoring is definitely not the only issue that many couples have to deal with as there are many other compatibility hurdles that exist. They could be physiological, like differences in their body temperatures and some differences in their personal preferences.

Personal preference issues may include things like the firmness of the mattress they want to sleep in, whether or not they want the windows open, and if one of them prefers to sleep with the lights on. These small differences could lead to discomfort to one of them, just as much as snoring does.

Does It Increase with Age?

Experts explain that sleep incompatibility between couples naturally increases with age. That explains why many older couples eventually express their desire to sleep in separate beds or even bedrooms. Needless to say, the need to have sex passes, and then snoring becomes a problem, which all give the couple reasons for not wanting to share the bed with each other.

Insomnia

A lot of couples continue to struggle in adjusting to each other’s sleep habits even when neither of them has sleep disorders. This could be because one of them has a sleep disorder that they are not aware of, like insomnia. According to statistics, it is common for insomniac people to seek treatment after several years of suffering from it. Thus, it is important for couples to talk about it and agree that necessary treatment should be considered as early as possible.

Sleeping Apart – Is It a Solution?

Surveys indicate that more and more couples, regardless of their age, try to resolve their sleep incompatibility issues by sleeping apart at night. Nevertheless, there remain more couples who prefer to be in each other’s arms every night. This goes to show that aside from sleeping apart, there are certain solutions that could be more effective in dealing with these incompatibilities, and that is the couple’s desire to be intimate and close to each other.

How to Conquer Sleep Apnea

We could all agree that there is nothing worse than having a snoring bed partner. While we all see snoring as a huge annoyance for sleeping, it is seriously linked to various potentially severe disorders, especially sleep apnea. Obstructive sleep apnea causes a person to stop breathing for short periods during sleep. What’s alarming about sleep apnea is that when untreated and ignored, it could increase a person’s risk of having a heart attack, high blood pressure, and stroke.

There are many ways to deal with sleep apnea, but it is important that couples understand that this disorder cannot be eliminated or treated overnight. One device that has been proven effective against sleep apnea is a continuous positive airway pressure (CPAP) device.

A CPAP device comes with tubes, a mask and a fan, and should be worn every night by the person diagnosed with sleep apnea. The fan is what applies air pressure to push the user’s tongue forward. What happens next is that the throat opens up and allows adequate air to pass.

Wearing a CPAP mask is definitely uncomfortable, which makes it necessary for a partner to be supportive enough. In a study which aimed to explore the effects of using a CPAP device among couples, it was found that men who were prescribed to use the device were more unwilling to use it especially when their wives were sleeping with them. It is therefore crucial that the person prescribed to use a CPAP device  feels the support of his or her bed partner as this could help ease the discomfort of using the device as well as the humiliation of having to use it.

Dealing With Sexual Frustration When You Are Not Getting Fulfilled

It can be a quite stressful and an embarrassing situation for a person to face sexual frustration during his or her lifetime. It is therefore important to understand the entire concept of sexual frustration so as to overcome it with ease. Here are some ways to deal with the situation.

Define sexual frustration

It is important to define the word sexual frustration and what exactly it means for you. You might be undergoing an erectile dysfunction, intercourse pain, reduced desire caused mainly due to depression, stress, illness or different medications. Over and above you may be simply feeling bored to enjoy a sexual relation. This may be for one reason or another. However, what is more important is to search, define and understand the root cause or reason behind the sexual dissatisfaction that ultimately leads to cause a sexual frustration.

Take support

After knowing the underlying cause of your sexual problem, you can seek an expert medical advice. An expert can rightly judge and offer a right treatment for your problem. In case, you feel uncomfortable to visit a sexual expert, you can also take your family or friends into confidence and take their advice to solve your problem of facing sexual frustration.

Do not forget that your main support is your sexual partner with whom you can share your intimate and innermost feelings with greater comfort and ease.

Communicate with your partner

It is important to make your partner aware of your feelings, emotions and your problems too. In case you are avoiding any crucial intimate talk or communication with your partner, you are ultimately making him or her feel undesirable, unwanted and unhappy too. Relationship problem is considered as one of the major cause of reduced satisfaction in any sexual act. Thus, you must remember to make your partner feel more comfortable and happy with you while you both are together.

This can greatly help to enhance sexual intimacy between you two, while also help to solve issues of depression, stress and frustration levels with ease.

Avoid excessive stress

Any trauma, grief or depression can easily invite a reduced desired in sex. This can also increase the sexual frustration in a person to further increase his or her level of stress. Stress can adversely affect the level of your ability to perform as well as enjoy a sexual relationship with your partner.

In case if you find it too difficult to manage your stress level, you must try to visit a psychologist or your family doctor who might offer you different alternative solutions for reducing your stress level.

Avoid triggers that cause sexual frustrations

Alcohol or drugs are the major triggers of any sexual frustration. A person who is under a constant and regular influence of alcohol or drugs can feel a substantial reduce in his or her sexual desires or activity, thereby causing extreme increase in the frustration level both during and after the sexual act.

Excessive intake of drugs can also cause sexual dissatisfaction as well as erectile dysfunction too. It is therefore important to take a timely advice and prescriptions from your doctor especially if you are habituated to alcohol, anti depressants or other pain relievers.