Why Buy Sex Toys?

Pleasure

In a society where sexual pleasure and guilt are associated, it's not surprising that sex toys have gotten a bad rap just for being themselves. It goes without saying that sex toys are best enjoyed with no guilt attached. They require no justification; sex toys are pleasure for pleasure's sake. They offer us a unique opportunity to explore our bodies in new and exciting ways. You'll no doubt discover more about sexual desire and probably discover a few new erogenous zones as well. Sex toys are simply a gateway to pleasure.

Fantasy

For those of us in monogamous relationships, it's often difficult to explore our sexual fantasies. Being faithful is more important than living out your deepest desires. Toys give us the opportunity to indulge our fantasies in a completely safe environment. In this sense, sex toys can be an extremely helpful addition to any loving relationship. It's nearly impossible for one person to satisfy every facet of another's desire. Sex toys can help by providing a new element to your sexual ritual without the complications of the actual realization of your fantasies.

Inspiration

An uninspired performance in the bedroom can be a real strain on your relationship. With the daily stresses of life, sex can often take a back seat to more pressing matters. Whether it's families or careers, our lives are busier than ever and intimacy often feels the squeeze. So why not introduce something a little risqué to the proceedings? Sex toys give couples a chance to explore each other and have a light-hearted laugh along the way. Adult toys are a wonderful way to spice up your sex life.

Sexual Health

Sex toys are good for you! There are some interesting and well-documented health benefits associated with the use of sex toys.

During menopause, most women experience some thinning of the vaginal wall. Studies indicate that the regular use of a dildo can help maintain vaginal tone.

Women who have trouble reaching orgasm can also benefit from the use of sex toys. Many leading experts on the subject recommend the use of a vibrator to help overcome orgasmic difficulty.

Common Myths

Myth #1: My partner wants to use sex toys. I must be sexually inadequate.

Whenever buying (or considering buying) a sex toy, it's a good idea to consider the feelings of your partner. Discussing sex toys with your partner before introducing them into your sex lives is not only respectful, but in many cases quite necessary. Many people assume that sex toys are purchased to fulfill some sort of sexual inadequacy. This is most often not the case. Discuss your reasons for buying a sex toy with your partner; it's usually necessary to prevent any hurt feelings.

Most people buy sex toys because they're an enjoyable way to explore new possibilities. It's fun to explore sexual potential whether alone or with a partner.

Myth #2: I'll get addicted to sex toys and won't be able to reach orgasm without them.

There's a very human propensity to become familiar with a particular form of stimulation. Whether it's cunnilingus from your partner, or vaginal penetration from your dildo, there are some forms of stimulation you count on to get you off. You can become addicted to your vibrator just as easily as you become addicted to a particular practice with your partner. It can happen, but you are not helpless to control and change it. Experiment with new positions, new toys, and new activities. Keep trying new things and you'll never be sexually dependent on any one particular practice.

Myth #3: Using a vibrator will cause damage to my genitals.

There's absolutely no physiological basis for such an argument. Vibrators can occasionally make genitals feel numb during or immediately after use but the sensitivity will always return. Experiment with different forms of stimulation during sex play to decrease any numbing effects.

You can pick up your passion prop at your local sex shop. Or, if you want to be a little more private about your purchase, you'll find plenty of well-stocked online boutiques (like pinktrickle.com ) that list items with pictures, descriptions, and specifics about cleaning and storage. 

Some playthings pointers: Read the instructions before using. Avoid materials that may give you an allergic reaction (e.g., latex), and wash your toy with antibacterial soap and hot water before and after use and let it dry completely. If your carnal contraption is made of a porous substance (like jelly rubber or cyberskin, which are harder to clean than nonporous products like silicone), or you want to use your toy vaginally after using it for anal action, cover it with a condom each time it's used to make sure it's clean.

You can find an excellent selection of brand name sex toys, bondage and fetish and other erotic products @ pinktrickle.com

Discovering the Effects of Sleep Incompatibility in Couples

When it comes to sleep, do you think you and your partner are compatible? There are many ways to explain how couples should be comfortable with each other’s sleep habits; for instance, the time that you both go to bed and the activities that you individually do before going to sleep. As people have their own sleep routines and habits, it is just normal that you and your partner may have differences in such things as well. But what’s important to look into here is how you both adjust to those differences and whether they can actually affect your own sleep and your relationship as a whole.

Many Couples Suffer

If you think you are deprived of having good quality sleep because of your partner’s sleep habits, you’re definitely not alone. In one study where 2,000 participated, it was found that more than half of them had interrupted sleep between 1 and 3 times a week. What’s worse is that the effects of being restless in their sleep come out the next day and they interfere with how they perform their regular activities.

So what could be the culprit of this? In most cases, it’s the snoring or the unusual sleep behavior of their bed partners.

According to sleep experts, snoring is among the major conflicts of couples during bedtime. But snoring is definitely not the only issue that many couples have to deal with as there are many other compatibility hurdles that exist. They could be physiological, like differences in their body temperatures and some differences in their personal preferences.

Personal preference issues may include things like the firmness of the mattress they want to sleep in, whether or not they want the windows open, and if one of them prefers to sleep with the lights on. These small differences could lead to discomfort to one of them, just as much as snoring does.

Does It Increase with Age?

Experts explain that sleep incompatibility between couples naturally increases with age. That explains why many older couples eventually express their desire to sleep in separate beds or even bedrooms. Needless to say, the need to have sex passes, and then snoring becomes a problem, which all give the couple reasons for not wanting to share the bed with each other.

Insomnia

A lot of couples continue to struggle in adjusting to each other’s sleep habits even when neither of them has sleep disorders. This could be because one of them has a sleep disorder that they are not aware of, like insomnia. According to statistics, it is common for insomniac people to seek treatment after several years of suffering from it. Thus, it is important for couples to talk about it and agree that necessary treatment should be considered as early as possible.

Sleeping Apart – Is It a Solution?

Surveys indicate that more and more couples, regardless of their age, try to resolve their sleep incompatibility issues by sleeping apart at night. Nevertheless, there remain more couples who prefer to be in each other’s arms every night. This goes to show that aside from sleeping apart, there are certain solutions that could be more effective in dealing with these incompatibilities, and that is the couple’s desire to be intimate and close to each other.

How to Conquer Sleep Apnea

We could all agree that there is nothing worse than having a snoring bed partner. While we all see snoring as a huge annoyance for sleeping, it is seriously linked to various potentially severe disorders, especially sleep apnea. Obstructive sleep apnea causes a person to stop breathing for short periods during sleep. What’s alarming about sleep apnea is that when untreated and ignored, it could increase a person’s risk of having a heart attack, high blood pressure, and stroke.

There are many ways to deal with sleep apnea, but it is important that couples understand that this disorder cannot be eliminated or treated overnight. One device that has been proven effective against sleep apnea is a continuous positive airway pressure (CPAP) device.

A CPAP device comes with tubes, a mask and a fan, and should be worn every night by the person diagnosed with sleep apnea. The fan is what applies air pressure to push the user’s tongue forward. What happens next is that the throat opens up and allows adequate air to pass.

Wearing a CPAP mask is definitely uncomfortable, which makes it necessary for a partner to be supportive enough. In a study which aimed to explore the effects of using a CPAP device among couples, it was found that men who were prescribed to use the device were more unwilling to use it especially when their wives were sleeping with them. It is therefore crucial that the person prescribed to use a CPAP device  feels the support of his or her bed partner as this could help ease the discomfort of using the device as well as the humiliation of having to use it.

Dealing With Sexual Frustration When You Are Not Getting Fulfilled

It can be a quite stressful and an embarrassing situation for a person to face sexual frustration during his or her lifetime. It is therefore important to understand the entire concept of sexual frustration so as to overcome it with ease. Here are some ways to deal with the situation.

Define sexual frustration

It is important to define the word sexual frustration and what exactly it means for you. You might be undergoing an erectile dysfunction, intercourse pain, reduced desire caused mainly due to depression, stress, illness or different medications. Over and above you may be simply feeling bored to enjoy a sexual relation. This may be for one reason or another. However, what is more important is to search, define and understand the root cause or reason behind the sexual dissatisfaction that ultimately leads to cause a sexual frustration.

Take support

After knowing the underlying cause of your sexual problem, you can seek an expert medical advice. An expert can rightly judge and offer a right treatment for your problem. In case, you feel uncomfortable to visit a sexual expert, you can also take your family or friends into confidence and take their advice to solve your problem of facing sexual frustration.

Do not forget that your main support is your sexual partner with whom you can share your intimate and innermost feelings with greater comfort and ease.

Communicate with your partner

It is important to make your partner aware of your feelings, emotions and your problems too. In case you are avoiding any crucial intimate talk or communication with your partner, you are ultimately making him or her feel undesirable, unwanted and unhappy too. Relationship problem is considered as one of the major cause of reduced satisfaction in any sexual act. Thus, you must remember to make your partner feel more comfortable and happy with you while you both are together.

This can greatly help to enhance sexual intimacy between you two, while also help to solve issues of depression, stress and frustration levels with ease.

Avoid excessive stress

Any trauma, grief or depression can easily invite a reduced desired in sex. This can also increase the sexual frustration in a person to further increase his or her level of stress. Stress can adversely affect the level of your ability to perform as well as enjoy a sexual relationship with your partner.

In case if you find it too difficult to manage your stress level, you must try to visit a psychologist or your family doctor who might offer you different alternative solutions for reducing your stress level.

Avoid triggers that cause sexual frustrations

Alcohol or drugs are the major triggers of any sexual frustration. A person who is under a constant and regular influence of alcohol or drugs can feel a substantial reduce in his or her sexual desires or activity, thereby causing extreme increase in the frustration level both during and after the sexual act.

Excessive intake of drugs can also cause sexual dissatisfaction as well as erectile dysfunction too. It is therefore important to take a timely advice and prescriptions from your doctor especially if you are habituated to alcohol, anti depressants or other pain relievers.

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Study: When women have rights, everyone gets laid more

Straight men of the world, there is a new solution to that age-old problem, how to have more sex? It's simple — just strive to ensure that your female counterparts have fulfilling jobs, equal chance for advancement, no glass ceilings, and receive equal pay for equal work. (And you thought foreplay took a long time!)

A new study from the American Psychological Association says people have more sex in countries where there is a greater degree of gender equality. The study, conducted in thirty-seven countries using over 300,000 couples, is based on a theory of "sexual economics." Essentially, it treats sex like currency and breaks it down into supply and demand.

Since men want sex, on average, more than women do, sex is a more valuable asset for a woman than it is for a man. In other words, a woman can use sex to get ahead in way that men can't. In a repressive society, sex is a woman's only asset, and so it becomes "expensive." However, when she has lots of different ways to get ahead (like college or art-rock), sex becomes "cheaper." As the study's author says:

If women don't have many opportunities to make money on their own, they need the value of sex to be as high as possible... When women don't have other opportunities, sex is the main thing she has to offer.

It's a clever — if not exactly sexy — way of looking at global sexual politics. And, at least anecdotally, it rings true. (Likelihood of getting laid on vacation: Iran vs. Holland? No contest.)

Feminism — it's win/win.  Read more at www.nerve.com

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T or F? It's Hard to Feel Sexy When You're a Mom

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It's Hard to Feel Sexy When You're a Mom

Over the weekend, my friends and I decided to gear up for an evening on the town. Tween Girl Supreme is gone for the duration of her summer break, spending time in Brooklyn and Miami with her father’s side of the family. So I’m left to try to remember what it is I used to do when I was, for that brief period of life, childless and fancy-free. I go through this every time she goes away — maybe twice a year — but my homies had a plan to get me out of the house. I’m 99 percent sure our crazy selves would’ve made the most of the night even if the lounge alone wasn’t hitting on much. That’s just how we are. The process of getting ready is the deterrent. Trying on outfits, turning every which way to analyze body parts at different angles, trying to achieve some semblance of seductiveness? That’s the part of the going-out routine I hate. It makes me wonder: has motherhood made me unsexy?

That, of course, implies that I was ever sexy in the first place. It’s certainly not a question every woman grapples with. I see mamas who ooze natural come hither-ness and they’ve got a gaggle of kids in their cart at the grocery store or a minivan full when they pull up to dance practice. I slap those ladies a mental high five and give them kudos for stirring up their inner hotness. But, more often than that, I spot moms who have clearly given up on any attempts to be even remotely stylish, let alone sexy. We all have days where it’s all we can do to brush our teeth and whisk our hair up in a ponytail. Maybe the gal in question is out on an errand-running mission. Maybe she has the flu. Maybe she’s got a few hours to herself before her children come home and she’ll be darned if she wastes precious moments primping and fluffing in front of the mirror. Those are all relatable excuses.

But then there are the chicks who seem to be hellbent on breaking the unwritten Guinness Book record for longest streak in sweatpants and Crocs. The closest things to beauty products that have touched their faces are Chapstick and Dove, and everything in their wardrobes screams functionality over femininity. I see them in Wal-mart and Target all the time. Every once in a while, especially when it’s cold outside, I’m in full freelance-writer-on-deadline, bare-minimum-maintenance mode and I have zero incentive to even lift a wand of mascara, I’ll find myself becoming that mom. Sweatpants are addictive, I don’t care what anybody says. So after two or three days in them — interspersed with a few wears of leggings, which are my other go-to fave — I have to forcibly peel myself out of them or risk being sucked into that abyss of perpetual frumpiness.

I might not be the hottest mom on the PTA committee (and I’m not, thanks to a cleavage-flashing lady who seems to be the one to always collect funds at every event), but I think I balance the hectic responsibilities of motherhood with a fairly stylish and sustained look. My thing is learning how to tap into my sexiness. It’s there (I think). I just have to know how to work it. The Man is trying to convince me that I have it going on naturally. It’s what attracted him to me, he insists, even across the miles through my Facebook pics. He admits to stalking my photos and he must not be lying, because he can rattle off a list of his favorite outfits and poses in pictures even I forgot that I took and posted. I’m glad that something drew him in, of course. I just wish I could tap into it myself when I’m getting ready to hit the town with the girls.

So this weekend, we’re giving it another go. I’ll spend oodles of time in front of the mirror, I’m sure, trying to work up my inner sexy. If I keep this up from now until the time my child gets home at the end of the month, I may actually find it. Do you feel more or less sexy since you had your kids? Image via buyalex/Flickr

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How to have a delicious sex life

Great sex is like a great stew Credits: Chef Therese Nelson

Having great sex is a lot like making a great stew.  Sure, you can get the Dinty Moore pre-made kind in a can.  But it will be nowhere near as satisfying as the kind that is made from scratch using fresh ingredients.  The recipe is pretty simple.  You gather your basic ingredients:  meat, vegetables, seasonings and water.  You will then prep those ingredients, bring them quickly to a boil, reduce to a simmer for a while (tasting and adjusting your seasonings along the way) and enjoy your delicious, slow-cooked stew.

The meat of you sex life is your physical being.  It should go without saying that you should be as physically fit and attractive as you would expect your partner to be.  Attention to hygiene and grooming are important since the quality of the sex is directly tied to the level of physical attraction the parties involved have to each other.  To take it a step farther, there is nothing wrong with catering a bit to your partner’s preferences.  If you know that he/she likes a certain cologne or a certain outfit or a certain hairstyle, it’s very grown and sexy to be responsive to that.  You eat with your eyes first, just like you do with food.

The vegetables of your sex life are what makes it healthy and nutritious. Your attitude toward sex is important.  Do you look at it as sharing or do you look at it as a responsibility?  Worse yet, do you look at sex as a tool to be used to manipulate your partner?  Sex is the physical manifestation of how you feel about your partner.  It is the expression of the regard (or lack thereof) with which you hold him/her. Safe sex is important.  Get tested and know your status.  For that matter, go get tested together.  Discussion of your sexual history can be awkward but no one is asking (or should be asking) for charts and graphs.  But you are right to be concerned with someone who refuses to discuss their sexual history.  Birth control is a shared responsibility and it is important to be aware of what steps are being taken to prevent unwanted pregnancy.  Condoms are just the minimum.

Creativity, spontaneity and an open mind are the spices that add flavor the stew that is your sex life.  Here’s where you can get as exotic as you wish and why one couple’s “stew” might not taste like another couple’s “stew”.  Sex is fun and is an opportunity to try new things.  Activities like role-playing, impromptu quickies and sexy emails throughout the day keep things interesting.  The excitement of not knowing what is coming next is a big aphrodisiac and a well planned seduction is a good thing.

Water or broth is what melds the flavors of the meat, vegetables and seasoning together into the stew.  Communication and respect are the broth in which your sex life simmers and is important to all aspects of intimacy.  Openly sharing you feelings about the physical, mental and emotional aspects of your  relationship increases the level of intimacy and fuels passion.  It is important to respect each other and to care about you mutual satisfaction.  Two people working to please each is a win-win in most cases.

In preparing your stew it is important to select ingredients that work well together and that are pleasing to you.  If, for instance, intelligence is important to you but you ignore that to choose someone who is hung like a horse (or has a mouth like a vacuum cleaner as the case may be), you set yourself up for a poor quality meal down the road.

Just as you initially bring your bring your pot to a boil when making stew, so it is important to make it hot early in the relationship.  In the beginning you want to set the tone and hold your partner’s attention.  The way you interact sexually from the beginning gives you a place from which to build and grow as you relationship develops.

As it simmers, you taste your stew and adjust the seasoning as needed.  Sometimes you need more physical variety. This can be achieved with a change of  scenery, like a weekend getaway or having sex someplace you don't ordinarily have it.  Or perhaps trying a romantic game, reading erotica to each other or watching an adult film will spark new ideas to spice things up.  A low steady heat ensures that your stew cooks at a pace that allows the flavors to develop fully and the meat and vegetables to be nice and tender.  If you tend your stew carefully and season it properly, it will be satisfying, fulfilling and will taste better every time you have some.  Bon apetit!

Traci Adedeji , Rochester Sex & Relationships Examiner Read more at www.examiner.com

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National sex census: 5 titillating takeaways Angelenos do it the most. Married people value quality over quantity. Men hanker after airborne sex — and other intriguing findings from the Trojan sex survey The sexiest place to do it? The car, according to Torjan's national sex survey. Photo: Ephraim Ben-Shimon/CORBIS SEE ALL 46 PHOTOS Sexual satisfaction is on the rise in America. A new survey by condom maker Trojan finds that the average American adult has sex 120 times a year, and "reports very high levels of sexual satisfaction" — though 63 percent of us would still like to be doing it more. Here, five other findings from the survey (which, with a sample of only 1,000, is admittedly not the most scientific): 1. The Northeast is hotter than you think... "Congratulations Northeasterners!" says Caitlin Dickson at The Atlantic Wire. That region's residents have more sex than Americans in any other part of the country, with an average of 130 times a year (or 2.5 times a week), compared with 125 for Midwesterners, 120 for Westerners, and 114 for Southerners. Maybe the latter two groups are "too busy enjoying the nice weather to have sex," says Dickson. 2. ... but L.A. residents have the most sex Angelenos have sex 135 times a year, the most of any of the 10 metropolitan centers surveyed. "Awwwwwwwwwwwwww yeah," says Jeannine Stein in the Los Angeles Times. But it's not all good. Los Angeles residents' 75 percent satisfaction rate ranks the city ahead of San Francisco (70 percent) and Boston (73 percent), but well behind Philadelphia (82 percent). L.A. residents are also the most likely to have faked an orgasm (51 percent). "Are we too stressed from texting our agents and sitting on the 405 and waiting for a table at Umami Burger to be fulfilled in our sexual encounters?" asks Stein. 3. Marriage means less sex, more satisfaction Single people have sex 130 times a year, the survey finds, compared with 109 times for married couples. But there's a reason: "Wedded bliss." Married people report a significantly higher rate of sexual satisfaction (82 percent) than single people (71 percent). "The quality vs. quantity argument seems to ring true here," says Dickson at The Atlantic Wire. 4. Sex in cars gets us revved up Nearly half of Americans say the "most exciting place" they've had sex is in a car. "Vehicular sex easily beat the second most titillating location, which was (go figure) someone else's bed (33%)," says Fred Meier in USA Today. Sex on a plane, meanwhile, remains a fantasy for men, with 33% saying they'd like to join the mile-high club. Women, on the other hand, prefer sex on the beach, with 26% saying they haven't had sandy sex, but want to. 5. Anthony Weiner isn't the only one sexting Nearly one in five American adults has had sex online, and one in ten has discussed sex on Facebook or Twitter. "So it's not just the kids who have figured out how to make their mini keyboards sing," says Dennis Romero at LA Weekly. And 18 percent of those surveyed said they'd had sex with someone they met online. That still doesn't mean you should send pictures of your erection "to women who aren't your wife," says Romero. "Especially if you're a U.S. congressman." Read more at theweek.com

The Dos and Don'ts of Buying a Sex Toy

The Dos and Don'ts of Buying a Sex Toy

Five easy steps to help you find that perfect toy

As cliché as it may sound, you need to be able to please yourself before you can expect others to please you. And if you're not that comfortable going solo between the sheets, you might want a little (battery-operated) help to get your groove on.

That said, walking into a sex store with the purpose of purchasing your first vibrator can be a really intimidating experience. Sex stores tend to carry a lot of products and  the plethora of funny shapes, bright colours, funny sex toy names and weird sounds can be overwhelming. We’ve broken down the toy shopping process into five easy steps to help you find that perfect first toy.

1. Find a store that you are comfortable with. The days of sex stores being dimly lit, creepy places located in shady locations are long gone. There are now tons of excellent stores and websites that are designed to be women and couple friendly. Do a bit of online research to find a website that you feel comfortable with. Asking questions about the vibrator you’re about to purchase has the potential to be totally awkward so, you’ll want to find a website where the staff is friendly, approachable and knowledgeable.

2. Decide what kind of stimulation you’d like. When it comes to the kind of experience a toy offers most toys fall into one of three categories: external stimulation (clitoral), internal stimulation (designed to be used inside you) and dual function which offers a combination of external and internal. Most women need some external stimulation to have an orgasm so, a toy that offers this is a good place to start. If the idea of purchasing something that looks like a brightly colored penis totally freaks you out (or you think it may intimidate your partner) start with a small vibrator (often called a “personal massager”) that fits in the palm of your hand. If you would like more “bang for your buck” (pun intended) look at one of the dual function vibrator so that you’ll have more options down the road. A classic example of a dual function toy would be Charlotte’s infamous “Rabbit” vibrator from Sex & the City. Remember how much she enjoyed that?

3. Materials. When you are purchasing a new toy, it’s very important to make sure that the product is body safe. Unfortunately, there are many toys out there made of materials that contain phthalates and other toxic chemicals that have been linked to cancer and other health problems. Protect your girl parts and make sure the toy you are buying is labeled as “body safe and phthalate free”. When it comes to texture, the harder materials tend to transmit vibrations stronger whereas softer materials tend to feel more like skin. If you can, touch the display model and choose a toy that you like the look and feel of.

4. Quality and Price. There’s a wide range of good quality toys on the market with all different price ranges in mind. You don’t need to break the bank to find a toy that makes you squeel. Here are a few questions you should keep in mind when you are shopping: How quiet is the toy? (You want to make sure that using this toy won’t make your roommates or neighbors think that you’ve suddenly taken a liking to creating late night woodworking projects). Does the toy come with a warranty? (Sadly, toys do break. Higher quality toys tend to be backed by a warranty. The last thing you want is for your toy to break right before you’re about to have a killer orgasm). How is the toy powered? Is it battery operated? Does it plug into the wall? Does it self charge with a wall plug-in like a cell-phone? Figure out what works best for you and go from there.

5. Have fun! Reserve a quiet moment for a play-date with your new toy (either solo or with a partner), pour yourself a glass of wine and enjoy. Read more at www.29secrets.com

Ten Bedroom Moves: Try these tips to unleash your wild side!

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Ten Bedroom Moves You've Never Tried

Try these tips to unleash your wild side!

No matter how hot your relationship is, everyone appreciates a few unexpected, sexy moves. Looking to try something new? Try these tricks in the sack to surprise him – and yourself…

1. The next time your guy jumps in the shower, join him! But to take this up a sexy notch, first turn out the lights. The sensation of hot water, skin on skin and experiencing each other without seeing each other will make him crazy, and your inhibitions fade to black…

2.       When you and your guy experience a little action, challenge him (and yourself) to stay quiet no matter what you do to each other. Just listening to your breathing can be very erotic, and trying to control yourself sans noise can set your pulse racing as the excitement builds.

3.       Have your man sit naked on a kitchen chair, then strut out wearing nothing but your best pair of stiletto boots and straddle him face-forward. The sight of you in nothing but those black spiky heels will leave him speechless!

4.       Instead of the missionary position, lie on your stomach and have your guy lie on top of you, entering you from behind. Close your legs so his are on the outside of yours, so he’s in the perfect position to hit your G-spot. This move will be mind-blowing for both of you.

5.       Take advantage of the hot weather! Have your guy lie naked on the bed. Put a small fan on your night table and then give him a rub down with ice cubes. The cool breeze will make the ice feel even colder, so he’ll be begging for your hot touch…

6.       Throughout the day, send your guy naughty one-word texts. By the end of the day, he’ll have a message that spells out exactly what you are going to do to him that night. This type of non-visual stimulation will leave you both desperate to be together and act out your message.

7.       For another “shower scene”, pick up a salt scrub in a stimulating citrus scent. Then invite him to join you in the shower for a “scrub down.” The steam and the rubbing action will get all your nerves tingling, blood flowing and bodies ready to go.

8.       Slide to the edge of your bed and put your feet on the ground. Then use your arms to lift yourself, just a little bit, off the bed.  When your guy enters you, have him stand still while you slide your body up and down. In addition to being very sexy, this will also give you a great ab-workout!

9.       When you’re on top, tell your man to keep absolutely still. Then instead of moving up and down, move your hips in a circular motion, almost as if you were “stirring” him (and you will). Every few minutes, alternate between clockwise & anti-clockwise, and see how long he can stand it.

10.  Have your guy sit on the floor with his legs crossed.  Straddle him, but instead of moving up and down, wrap your legs around him and slowly rock back and forth.  This unexpected move will take you both by surprise. Read more at www.29secrets.com