The Modern Virgin: Dropping the V bomb

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The Modern Virgin: Dropping the V bomb

Natalie Dylan 22-year-old virgin

I've never been one to conform to trends or to allow others to dictate how I act, which applies to my sex life as well as my dress. I don't particularly like wearing turtlenecks, frocks, or burkhas — I like wearing tight jeans, low-cut shirts and dresses. However, my choice of clothes often only adds to a man's confusion when I tell him I am a virgin.

When I'm out at a party, bar, or just walking to class, I sometimes forget to wear my Scarlet V. As a result, there always comes a point in my romantic relationships when my virginity becomes relevant and I have to drop the V bomb. This point has come for me at some of the most inopportune times — including when his cock is "in the shallow end." One of my standards before having sex with a guy is that he has to know that I am a virgin. Although dropping the V bomb is awkward right before we have sex — I bet it would be even worse right after.

Throughout the years telling men my dirty little secret has aroused an array of responses including: "If you're a virgin then my dick is purple," and "Are you sure you've never been fucked?" Although these answers are always entertaining, they generally end in an awkward conversation, followed by a quick exit by the man.

Virginity is a hot commodity in America today. Natalie Dylan (pictured above) sold her 22-year-old virginity for $3.7 million at the legal Bunny Ranch brothel. There are countless other websites and forums dedicated to other young women looking to do the same. Although a $3.7 million payday would be nice, I think I am going to stick to losing it without a business transaction.

Americans have conflicting views on a woman's virginity. In TV shows and movies, if a woman over 20 is a virgin, this is a major plot point and character trait that relays some deeper truth about the woman. The assumption is that 20-year-old virgins don't just happen. Many guys assume these women chose to remain pure due to extreme religious views or personality defects.

While virginity used to be a trait prized above all others in women, now most men don't know how to react to it. When I tell a potential suitor that I'm a virgin, his body is usually excited, but his mind gets in the way. Most college boys looking for casual sex are intimidated by a woman's virginity. They don't want to ruin what a woman has been saving, to be a disappointment, or to turn a friend into a stage-five clinger after the deed is done.

Part of me is reassured that so many men have been this respectful of my virginity, practicing restraint rather than rushing in to be the first to deflower me. However, I am 20, not 14. While I want my first time to be special, which is why I've waited so long, I'm not expecting to form a spiritual connection or a lifelong bond with this person. I just want to remain friends and remember him fondly. I'm not looking for a marriage proposal. I'm looking for a warm memory and a good story.

My quest to lose my virginity before I turn 21 continues. Using a low-cut black dress as bait, I recently got picked up in a parking lot. This new possible suitor has earned the privilege of being let in on my secret — and he hasn't run away yet. Keep reading future posts to see where it goes.

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