Boobs: Embracing your cup size

What’s the big deal with these?

Boobs, tits, breasts, jugs, head­lights, hoot­ers, cans, knock­ers, mel­ons; the list goes on. No mat­ter what you call them they are a point of fas­ci­na­tion for men and women. It has always intrigued me that peo­ple are obsessed with boobs. I hap­pen to be blessed (or cursed depend­ing on how you look at it) with an ample décol­letage or as Alex once said “epic boobage”. A man asked me recently, “Do you think you are approached by more men because of your breasts?” Well I am def­i­nitely approached by self-​​proclaimed “breast men” more often. But I hon­estly couldn’t say. How does one exper­i­ment with that? It’s not as if I can hide my breasts, well def­i­nitely not since I passed the DD mark in high school. I fail to see what all the hul­la­baloo is about & why a woman once told me to “Keep them cov­ered, they are obscene.” No lady they are body parts, relax. So what is it with boobs? And how can you learn to love what you do or don’t have?

Why all the fuss? Why do breasts cause such com­mo­tion and con­tro­versy. Katy Perry caused quite a stir when she appeared on Sesame Street with Elmo because of her cleav­age. A lot of non­sense if you ask me, she wasn’t strip­ping or motor boat­ing Elmo. Katy has a great rack and she built her career on it. Good for her! Use what you’ve got lady. After all you’re only young once and they won’t always be that perky. Christina Hendrick’s can thank her boobs for about 80% of her fans, myself included. She is the poster woman for curves. The best part is she owns them and doesn’t try to play them down. I mean look at that pic­ture. Yes sex sells but con­fi­dence will seal the deal. Embrace it ladies.

Curves men & women love

How­ever why are breasts sex­u­al­ized in our cul­ture? After all they are just glands with fatty tis­sue. What’s sexy about that? “Being glan­du­lar organs, the breasts are highly sen­si­tive to hor­monal changes in the female body, and are thereby con­nected with the female gen­i­tal sys­tem. An auto­matic sys­tem causes the nip­ple to become erect when stim­u­lated by tac­tile or sex­ual stim­uli. Nip­ple stim­u­la­tion increases pro­lactin, a hor­mone that can cause the uterus to con­tract and results in sex­ual stim­u­la­tion.” (Source ABNF Jour­nal) So essen­tially breasts are not only hard-​​wired to nour­ish a child but also for sex­ual plea­sure. Breasts are sec­ondary sex­ual organs mean­ing that they don’t play a role in actual repro­duc­tion unless you count the part where they attracted your mate in that sexy bra. They are also your ally when it comes to sex­ual satisfaction.

“A great deal of erotic and sex­ual appeal cen­ters on the female breast. Women in par­tic­u­lar tend to view their breast through the reflec­tion of its desir­abil­ity to men. Women, more than men, are social­ized to per­ceive that their per­sonal value is reflected in their out­ward appear­ance (Spitzack, 1990). Hence, women are social­ized that their breasts are not entirely their own, but exist for the eval­u­a­tion and plea­sure of oth­ers.” (Source ABNF Journal) This is where breast aug­men­ta­tion comes into play. If you want to get a boob job for you so that you can feel more con­fi­dent than that’s one thing. But women who enlarge their breasts for oth­ers need to reassess. You can’t place your self-​​worth in your cup size. I say learn to love what you have. Obvi­ously breasts are not earned at the gym like wash­board abs. But thanks to the lin­gerie indus­try push-​​up bras, water bras and every other con­trap­tion you can imag­ine are available.

Learn­ing to love what you have is tough. Com­ing from south­ern Cal­i­for­nia, a place where half the breasts are fake, its easy to begin think­ing that big­ger is always bet­ter. But breasts big or small are obsessed over. I spent a lot of time dis­lik­ing my large breasts and often seri­ously con­sider a breast reduc­tion. Why? You try buy­ing a but­ton down shirt with cans this size. Also my bathing suit tops need to be spe­cially made. My bras cost between $45-$65 some­times more. I have con­stant pain in my shoul­der from my bra straps. Run­ning? Yeah a bra and two sports bras are needed to keep these boobs in check. Golf­ing, ha! It’s com­edy watch­ing me try to adjust the girls. Also I can’t sleep on my stom­ach and I have to make sure that when I buy clothes my cleav­age doesn’t look too porny. Sim­ply said my breasts can be quite annoy­ing at times.

Peo­ple make judge­ments about women with large breasts too. As if because my genet­ics gave me these I’m instantly slut­tier. And don’t even get me started on eye con­tact, men of the world, I get it you want to look but be slick about it. Despite all of that I’ve finally learned to accept and even like my jugs. I can fill out a cleav­age top with the best of them. Curves are sexy and I like mine. I always have a place to put my ID or phone, no purse needed.

Con­tro­versy rid­den rack

I’m 28 years old and I love my body. It’s not per­fect, it’s not every man’s cup of tea but so what. It took me way too many years to love my body. The older I get the more com­fort­able I am in my own skin & bra. You have to embrace who you are flaws and all. But also con­tin­u­ally strive to be a bet­ter ver­sion of your­self. Ladies, stop think­ing about what you don’t like when it comes to your body and start rel­ish­ing in what you love about it. Boobs included. Men aren’t going to love you based on your cup size, it’s con­fi­dence they find sexy plus the whole pack­age and the sooner you learn that the sooner you’ll find your hap­pi­ness. Because you can’t love some­one else unless you love your­self, breasts and all.

Filed Under: Alternative, Asides, Fashion, For Women, Opinion, Self, Sex Tagged With: boobs, bra, breasts, christina hendricks, cleavage, cup size, katy perry, sexuality

About Taylor Cast

Taylor Cast has been the female half of The Urban Dater since 2008. She lives, dates & writes in New York city. She drinks gin & bourbon, smokes cigars & bakes; all while in 4 inch stilettos. Her best advice is to never leave home with out red lipstick & a strong opinion. Some have called her a sassy yet classy broad. Follow Taylor: Twitter | Miss. Taylor Cast

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